Have you ever wondered how, when and why our wishes come true? Have you seen people who are "always lucky" or, conversely, "always unlucky"? Why do some people have everything come true, if they just want to, while others have to make great efforts, but all is unsuccessful?
Let's take a look at the "mechanism" for fulfilling desires and see how it works, maybe then the answers to all these questions will become obvious to you. First, let's answer the question: what is "desire"? Our desire is the need for something. Sometimes we know what exactly, and sometimes we find it difficult to define it. Sometimes we THINK that having something will satisfy our need, when in fact it is not. Sometimes we just don't know how to desire. We often confuse the PURPOSE and the WAY to achieve it. Like this? - It's very simple. For example, a girl is sure that she WANTS TO BE MARRIED, when in fact she WANTS HAPPINESS. But she formulates her desire exactly like this: I want to get married (sometimes the terrible is added: at least for someone!). It implies that: if I get married, then I OURSELVE that I will be happy. As a result, women come to see me every day, and they received what they wanted, i.e. got married but didn't satisfy their REAL need for happiness. You must be able to determine your real need and turn it into a desire, i.e. when you ask for something, be prepared for the fact that you will be given EXACTLY what you ASKED, and not what you IMPLIED. So, in order for your desire to be fulfilled, you need to know exactly what you need and desire exactly this. Those. if you are thirsty, ask for clean water, not a well (it may be dry, dirty, etc.). The next condition: the desire must be your own (you cannot wish for someone), real (that is, in principle, feasible), and most importantly - you must really need it and you must be ready to get what you want.
Let's look at this condition in detail. What does "own desire" mean? Could MY desire not be my own? Yes maybe. We often “want for others”. For example, when parents want their child to study well, enter a prestigious university, etc. they want for their child, i.e. in fact, INSTEAD of him. This is not their own desire - this is what they think is best for the child, while his own desires may not be taken into account at all. Another example from the same series: “I want him (she, they) to understand something (rethink, make the right conclusions, do the right thing)”. This is again not your own desire, but a desire for another person. Explanations are also needed regarding the reality of desires. Unrealistic desires include: resurrection from the dead, in a minute to become a Hollywood movie star,get answers to all your questions right now, get a magic wand, etc. All other desires are, in principle, doable. Some may take quite a long time and a lot of effort to perform, and some may be performed with the "left heel". What does “really necessary” mean and how do you know if you are ready to get what you want? Necessary - this means that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be nice to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it is still not being fulfilled and is not being fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change. All other desires are, in principle, doable. Some may take quite a long time and a lot of effort to perform, and some may be performed with the "left heel". What does “really necessary” mean and how do you know if you are ready to get what you want? Necessary - this means that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be nice to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it is still not being fulfilled and is not being fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change. All other desires are, in principle, doable. Some may take quite a long time and a lot of effort to perform, and some may be performed with the "left heel". What does “really necessary” mean and how do you know if you are ready to get what you want? Necessary - this means that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be nice to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it still does not come true and is not fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change. Some may take quite a long time and a lot of effort to perform, and some may be performed with the "left heel". What does “really necessary” mean and how do you know if you are ready to get what you want? Necessary - this means that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be good to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it is still not being fulfilled and is not being fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change. Some may take quite a long time and a lot of effort to perform, and some may be performed with the "left heel". What does “really necessary” mean and how do you know if you are ready to get what you want? Necessary - this means that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be nice to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it is still not being fulfilled and is not being fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change.that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be good to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it still does not come true and is not fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change.that you are ready to make every effort to get what you want and have already begun to apply them, and not just dream that it would be good to have this and that. Willingness to fulfill a desire is a separate topic. Sometimes it seems to us that our desire should already be fulfilled, but it still does not come true and is not fulfilled. This means that in fact we have not taken into account something, have misunderstood something, or are simply afraid of change.
Nadezhda Sidorskaya