Everyone has moments when they want to spit on everything and go somewhere to a desert island in order to just escape from the bustle of everyday life. We tend to blame anyone for this, but not ourselves, but the source of all problems, as a rule, lies in our thinking and the typical mistakes made on a daily basis:
1. Constantly thinking about situations from the past (what would happen if you acted differently in some situation)
What to do: Treat any situation as an experience. Draw conclusions from it. When you think about what happened, you have the opportunity to write a new script and do the right thing in the future under similar conditions. The main thing is not to indulge in such thoughts 24 hours a day, here you need to know when to stop.
2. Clutter in the apartment
What to do: First, remember about such an important thing as the distribution of responsibilities, when each family member clearly knows what he is doing, without any reminders. Set a specific day for general cleaning and then, getting out of bed in the morning, everyone will know exactly who is doing what.
Another option: every day you clean some part of the apartment. Today - the bathroom, tomorrow - the kitchen, etc. But even this approach does not exclude the division of responsibilities.
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By the way, cleaning is a great way to feel in control of your own life, because the result is achieved quickly, and you automatically start to think that you can get it in other areas too.
3. Lack of hobbies, interests, hobbies, joys in life, even the most insignificant
What to do: The phrase "I have no time to do this on weekdays" is very common. But in fact, it is very useful to turn these very weekdays into weekends - do on Monday (any other working day) something that you usually do on the weekend. Go with a friend to a cafe, on a date, just take a walk, buy yourself a gift, etc. You don't have to limit your life to the home-work-home route.
4. Resentment, anger at someone from the environment
What to do: This feeling needs to be worked through. You can go to psychotherapy, discuss the issue with someone, and ask the other person how they dealt with a similar situation. When we let go of the problem, do not store negative energy within ourselves, we have a vision of the future.
5. Unfinished business
What to do: Divide everything into three categories: "very important", which need to be done in the near future. "Important", but they can be postponed for a certain period. "Unimportant", you plan to put them in perspective. Proceed with each category in turn.
If you have any difficulties with doing things, ask yourself: what is stopping me and what can help in this situation? Let's say you don't have time, then just select a day in your diary and write down a specific task there. When you cross off another item from your to-do list, you will definitely feel a surge of energy.
6. Things, souvenirs, clothes, photos with former lovers
What to do: all these things must be, if not thrown away, then at least removed from sight. However, such measures should only be used when the past upsets you greatly. For example, at one glance at the photo, a ring from an ex-husband, etc. your heart contracts, you want to cry, etc. If you do not experience anything like this, you can safely delete this item.
7. Appliances that need to be repaired, broken things in the house, loose doorknob, loose plinth, dripping tap, etc. And also not completed repairs
What to do: broken things and equipment like a splinter. It doesn't seem to hurt, but if you hurt it, it starts to bother you. In fact, this is the same unfinished business.
For example, you have a loose doorknob. Whenever you touch it, it falls, and you put it back in. Naturally, such actions do not cause anything except irritation. Bring all these everyday little things into your diary and solve them as soon as possible.
As for the renovation, many designers advise not to stretch it, otherwise you run the risk of never reaching the final. It is better to buy materials cheaper or not to wait for wallpaper from Italy for two months, and to purchase those that are available at the moment, the main thing is to bring the work started to the end.
8. Your kids' school homework that you do with them
What to do: Ideally, parents should love, pamper their children, and talk to them. It is better to entrust the lessons to a hired teacher, some special person. It is advisable not to the grandmother, otherwise you will constantly be involved in the process.
Let's say there is no opportunity to hire a visiting teacher. You are forced to assign this function to yourself. Remember that your child is doing the homework, and you are just helping him. No need to stand over the child, do everything for him, give him more independence. Switch on control after a certain period of time. Opened tasks with the child and leave immediately. After about 20 minutes, you can check the draft and discuss the error. Allow the student to perform his main function - educational activity.
9. Weekends in large shopping centers
What to do: no need to spend the whole day on such "entertainment". Tired men, crowds of people and screaming children will definitely not add a good mood. If you need to buy groceries or buy something, do it and go on about your business. There is no need to idly walk from store to store, because in the evening you will feel overwhelmed. In general, trips to the shopping center should be dosed - fortunately, there are many other ways to diversify your leisure time.
10. Feeling that for your feats at work you do not receive enough monetary reward
What to do: money is energy. Any person feels good only when he invests in some business with his knowledge, skills, time, emotions and receives a similar reward for all this. If you invest more than you get in return, think about it. Perhaps the moment has come when you need to talk about this with the management, having previously compiled a list of your achievements and successes in this position. Or maybe you just need to change jobs.
11. Communication only with members of the same gender
What to do: if a woman, both at work and outside of work, is surrounded only by the fair sex, this is not good. Masculine energy must be there. The situation is similar with the stronger sex.
12. Lack of sleep and exercise
What to do: if you have been going to sign up for a gym for a long time, but the matter has not got off the ground, gather your will into a fist and carry out your plan. Sleep is also an important component, its lack is reflected in your emotions and in weight (those who sleep little tend to be overweight).
13. Environment
What to do: Energy is usually taken away by people who like to complain about life. All they do is whine. You think that advice is expected from you, you give it, and you expect the person to follow the recommendations, the situation will change. But that doesn't happen. As a result, you do not get satisfaction from your help.
Try not to give in to lengthy discussions of your friend's (colleague's) problems. Don't participate emotionally. Try to translate the dialogue to some neutral topics that may be of interest to you.
Also consider one nuance: when for the thousandth time someone complains about your husband, children, work, it means that the person cannot cope with the existing problem. Apparently, he needs professional help. And such assistance is provided by a specialist, not you.
14. Outstanding loans, unpaid debts
What to do: Live within your means to feel a sense of stability. Of course, now there are a huge number of loan offers, and it is difficult to refuse them, because thanks to the loan you have the opportunity to get the desired thing right now.
When it comes to some really important purchases, for example, an apartment, you need to introduce it into the picture of your life and perceive the mortgage payment as a standard deduction for utilities. Highlight a certain expense item for this item. In addition, you may be encouraged by the idea that, first of all, you can pay the bill (otherwise you would not be given a loan). And secondly, you live in your own home!
15. Old wardrobe, things from which you are tired. Shoes with worn out capes, knocked down heels
What to do: pamper yourself. It's not so much the old things themselves that drain us, but the feeling of them. If you are constantly pulling on boots that need to be changed for a long time and you are well aware of this, well, find money in your budget for a new thing. Clothes (shoes) should please us.
16. Chipped dishes, old kitchen utensils, not pleasing to the eye
What to do: there is even a sign on this score - they say that cracked dishes carry negative energy. Throw away such things and do not regret them. You'd rather have one favorite cup than ten, but in a terrible state.
17. Sleep with young children in the same bed
What to do: Such things can happen, but not on a regular basis. When you sleep with a small child, you are afraid to hurt him, anxious and end up feeling overwhelmed in the morning. Also, in no case should you kick your husband out of the matrimonial bed on the sofa in the living room.
18. Long correspondence on dating sites that never end with a real date
What to do: do not drag out virtual communication, do not give your energy just like that. Instead of talking about yourself for a long time, just invite the person to meet. During a real date, people exchange energy and immediately understand whether they are suitable for each other or not. Correspondence does not have this effect. If the conversation doesn't lead to a real meeting, don't be afraid to end it.
19. Dating married men
What to do: you don't need to lie to yourself that you are doing this for pleasure and you don't need anything from a man. And the conclusion is simple - do not touch someone else's.
20. Snack at home on your lap in front of the TV, tasteless food
What to do: How we eat (in what environment) and what we eat are very important. If you do it on the run or on your knees in front of the TV, it means only one thing - you treat the rest of the joys of life in the same way. Change your habits.