If there is a person in your environment with whom you constantly feel bad, take a closer look at him. Try to analyze how he interacts with other people? If all his social contacts are aimed at drawing vitality from other people, then you have an energy vampire in front of you.
The main sign of interaction with an energy vampire is the deterioration of the physical and emotional state.
Do you experience sensations:
- tiredness;
- weakness;
- irritability;
- emptiness.
It can also manifest itself as a headache. The general uncomfortable state dictates the corresponding behavior: there is a strong desire to end communication with such a person as soon as possible.
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Typology of energy vampires
Los Angeles psychologist Judith Orloff has seriously studied the issue of energy vampires and has devoted several publicistic studies to this topic.
She distinguishes the following types of energy vampires:
1. A crying sister is not necessarily a female; her behavior is based on self-pity. This is a person who is unable to notice obvious positive aspects. He is constantly in the position of the victim.
2. Prosecutor - considers that his main goal is to make the interlocutor feel guilty, actively manifests his aggression and causes open conflict.
3. Queen of drama - a tendency to exaggerate problems, for her whole life is full of stress, torment and suffering.
4. Chatterbox - falling in love with your voice and sheer narcissism, constant striving to attract everyone's attention.
5. The boss - the desire to enslave the consciousness and will of the interlocutor. A strong personality that requires complete submission to yourself.
6. Pleasant interlocutor - these people are always the soul of the company, subtle psychologists, they know how to rub themselves into trust and have an interlocutor.
7. Villain - envy is at the heart of all his actions, his goal is to eliminate rivalry by any means and emerge victorious, causing as much harm as possible to others.
Are you an energy vampire?
Those people who are themselves vampires experience exactly the opposite sensations. If you are an energy vampire, then, most likely, you feel satisfaction in the case when you manage to provoke others to show negative emotions, especially anger and irritation.
This group also includes lovers who deliberately provoke a partner to show jealousy or make them feel guilty.
After such communication, the vampire becomes emotionally agitated and full of strength, and the partner feels complete energetic emptiness. Most often, this program is laid in childhood, you need to try to analyze and track how it happened in your case.
The origins of the problem
Most often, energy vampires are those children whose parents did not pay enough attention to them, were not involved in education, were not interested in their life, were indifferent. Sometimes this can happen in quite prosperous families, in which, in fact, everyone is busy exclusively with themselves, and there is no unity as such.
The only way for such a child to receive the missing warmth and attention is to independently “collect” the necessary energy. He begins to throw tantrums, set conditions, manipulate. But the blame for all this lies solely with the parents, who did not bother at the time to properly establish relations with their child.
The kid is not yet able to independently build relationships with the outside world - he needs to constantly feel the support of adults. It does not always have to be praise and approval, punishment is also necessary for proper education. The main thing is that there is a healthy energy exchange between adults and children.
It happens that even in adulthood, a person can become an energy vampire. The reasons may be some kind of strong life shock or a seriously endured illness. It is important that after such a severe psychological trauma there is an opportunity to consult a specialist for a timely solution of this problem, otherwise the consequences can be the most unpredictable.
Can you learn to control yourself?
If you realized that you are an energy vampire and decided to control yourself - believe me, you yourself will only benefit from this. You should not draw energy from your environment, you can find alternative ways to fill energy gaps.
The simplest and most effective way is to communicate with wildlife - it is really capable of working miracles. Another way to activate the flow of vitality is through sports. Make it a rule to start every day with moderate physical activity, and then you will not even have thoughts of using communication with people as an energy boost.
Taiboleva Olga