Psychologist and writer Boris Higir, who has been studying the influence of a name on character and fate for more than 30 years, knows for sure which names should not be given to babies
When a child is born to happy parents, the first question of friends is "A boy or a girl?", And the second is obligatory - "What was your name?" Apparently, not only out of curiosity. We intuitively understand how much a name means in a person's life. But psychologist and writer Boris Higir, who has been studying the influence of a name on character and fate for more than 30 years, knows for sure which names should not be given to babies.
Boris Yuzikovich, what names are the happiest, healthiest, sexiest?
B. Kh.: - There are no unlucky names. They just affect people in different ways. And it largely depends on the middle name. Dmitrievich, Nikolaevich, Semyonovich, Igorevich, Konstantinovich give out a complex character. For example, Nikolai Igorevich is not a very good combination. This person is most likely quick-tempered, it is difficult to agree with him. The ideal option is Vladimirovich. Almost any name is suitable for such a patronymic. It is easier to achieve what you want with it. In second place are Sergeevichs, Mikhailovichs, Petrovichs, Pavlovichs. According to my observations, Alexandra and Alexei are more often sick in childhood, as a rule, with respiratory diseases. The sexiest names are Natalia, Eduard, Vladimir, Victor, Sergey.
They say that people with names, where there is one or two "l" - Yulia, Alla - are still happier than others
B. Kh.: - It is not so. Happiness depends on the compatibility of the name and patronymic. However, I found out that names with one and especially two "r", contribute to the formation of the most unpredictable character.
How do you explain that the name influences character and destiny?
B. Kh.: “When a name is pronounced - and this is done dozens of times a day - the sound affects the brain and affects mental health. And one name helps someone, soothes, and acts on another as an irritant. I observed a lot, collected statistics. Look at ten Viktor Aleksandrovich, and you will notice that they are somewhat similar. Most Ediks are jokers and are loved by girls. History also provides a lot of evidence of the power of the name over the fate of a person. Many peoples, including in Russia, had a custom to give a child two names, and the main one received at baptism was hidden in order to deceive the forces of evil. In ancient Israel, the name given at birth was changed several times - when the child began to walk, before and after school, after marriage, so that it would help him at every new stage of life. English therapists discoveredthat people with strange names often suffer from complexes and mental disorders. Americans have noticed that guys named Rocky and Chuck are more often boxers and football players.
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And what about the surnames?
B. Kh.: - The surnames derived from the names of predatory animals add to the character traits of cruelty. The surrounding people react more positively to birds and fish such as Vorobyovs, Chizhikovs, Karasevs, so their lives are easier. There are criminal surnames, their carriers are often at odds with the law. These include the Novikovs. Not all, of course …
Is the artist's nickname also important?
B. Kh.: - Of course! The director of the recent series "School" Valery Gai Germanicus, in my opinion, chose the wrong pseudonym. Therefore, all sorts of bad things happen to her. Recently it was said that she was admitted to the hospital.
How to choose a name for a child?
B. Kh.: - It is necessary to proceed from the consonance of the name with the patronymic and from the month of birth. December and February children are stubborn, restless, especially the Igorevichs, Olegovichs, Dmitrievichs - they need to be given names that soften their temperament: Alexei, Mikhail, Sergey, Andrey. March are vulnerable, sensitive, squeamish. Dmitry, Igor, Konstantin suit them. Those born in the summer can be called Edwards, Stanislavs, Olegs. But do not name the child after the father who died in the accident of a relative. People with the same name and patronymic have a higher risk of injury.
US President John F. Kennedy gave his son his own name, and he died. The life of the director and actor Sergei Bodrov Jr. ended tragically. Examples can be continued. It is undesirable for girls to give male names. Otherwise, they grow rude. I am also against abbreviated names. Don't call your son Vladimir Vovka, it's better Volodya.
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Will life get better if you change your name?
B. Kh.: - In my practice there are many such stories. Once they brought a 5-year-old girl, Daria Konstantinovna, named after her great-grandmother. Parents complained: the daughter is very nervous, fights with other children. When she was given a new name Nana, she was transformed - she became calm, kind. Another client, Yuri Alekseevich, suffered from cataracts and could not get married. I chose the name Igor, and he decided on an operation that restored his eyesight, and got a family. For a young woman Irina, who was unlucky with suitors and work, I suggested the name Esmeralda. Now her life has improved. But it is necessary to change the name for real, according to the passport.
They say you also figured out the criminals by name?
B. Kh.: - Once a major banker asked for help in investigating the loss of a large sum. They suspected their own. From the list of employees, I identified people prone to scams. And my assumptions were later confirmed. According to the psychologists of the Moscow Regional Department of Internal Affairs, my descriptions of the characters of potential criminals by name were justified with an accuracy of 70-90%.
A person learns that his name is unfortunate, so what - to change right away?
B. Kh.: - You can change, but you can understand your shortcomings and learn how to deal with them.
Dossier
Boris Higir was born in 1942 in Uzbekistan, but he lived and worked first in Kharkov, and for the last 17 years in Moscow. Doctor of Psychology. He has written over 40 books about the role of the name in the fate of a person. Has a large silver medal of the United Nations for his contribution to the development of psychology.