Willy-nilly, we begin to ask ourselves questions:
- Why is he - everything, and me - nothing?
- Why is he rich and I am poor?
- Why am I sick and he is healthy?
- Why is she so beautiful and I am not?
- Why do I have continuous failures in love?
- Why do my illusions constantly fail?
- Why, when everything was going so well, trouble fell on my head?
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- Why does the happiness, which I so carefully planned, suddenly collapse as if by itself?
- Are my failures an accident or a pattern?
- Where is the source of my misfortunes hidden - in external circumstances or in myself?
- Is there even a hope that troubles will bypass me?
To answer these and other similar questions, it is necessary to understand that there are phenomena in our life that cannot be controlled, but which greatly affect the way our life develops.
How important it is to look at yourself from the outside! And not just to look, but to see, as it were in multiple magnification, the advantages and disadvantages hidden from a superficial glance.
All kinds of astrologers, palmists, fortune-tellers and fortune-tellers have explained and still explain to us that all the main events of our life, our temperament, our relationships with other people, our health and even the date of death are known from the moment of our birth. They also argue that life is a path that has been largely pre-programmed and that we should go through the cup of joy and suffering we owe.
In this understanding of human destiny, you see, there is a certain doom. If everything is clear from the very beginning, then why then live, learn anything, make some decisions, make a choice? Who needs it in this situation?
Scientists-philosophers, however, assume the ability of a person to influence his own destiny and believe that he was "born to make a fairy tale come true." They assure us that we can make this fairy tale come true with our own hands and that a lot here depends on ourselves.
If we develop the age-old folk wisdom, then we can build the following chain: thought gives rise to motive, motive - deed, deed - habit, habit - character, character - destiny.
As you can see, it all starts with a thought. Therefore, you should control your thoughts, as they are associated with the behavior, deeds, actions, lifestyle in general of each of us. It is in thoughts that the motives of actions arise, as well as the style of interaction with the outside world.
Many of our unnecessary habits can become second nature, thereby hindering our self-expression. Reflecting on the causes of failure and discovering the typicality of problems allows us to adjust our own lives.
We want to unravel the mystery of our love defeats, unravel the tangle of family troubles, put an end to a series of life failures. To do this, we need to meet, as they say, face to face not only with self-esteem, but also with our stereotypes, prejudices, prejudices and complexes.
Does the dear reader know that human complexes are based on illusions and exist only thanks to past negative experiences and fear of the future? Therefore, the real problems of the present and the complexes are far from the same thing.
And a person holds on to complexes in order to have an excuse in case of failure: “I told you I’m not lucky”. Some even stick out their complexes, boast of them, giving out obvious character flaws for their merits, uniqueness and originality: “Nothing can be done about what I was, I will remain so. Accept me for who I am. This is my stubborn character."
How can you see what is hidden behind the facade of your usual way of life?
In the hustle and bustle of everyday affairs, we, as a rule, pay little attention to the little things that form the outline of the events in our life. And we should analyze our individual characteristics, paying close attention to childhood memories, life attitudes, our own behavior in various situations, dreams, dreams, dreams, superstitions, illusions of communication, actions and habits.
In analyzing childhood memories, we need to distinguish between parental delusions and truly useful knowledge about life.
Life attitudes are our views on life. They are formed throughout life in the form of our experience, which, depending on past successes or disappointments, determines life guidelines for us. Obviously, only clear life guidelines make us the real masters of our life.
Nor should our daydreams, dreams, daydreams, superstitions, and bodily reactions be discounted. They manifest our hidden, hidden desires, as well as unrealized aspirations. It depends on them whether we feel inner comfort or mental discord, satisfaction or dissatisfaction with ourselves.
In difficult life situations, we try to protect ourselves in one way or another: behind a self-confident look, we hide shyness, outbursts of anger mask insecurity or fear. The most interesting thing is that we defend ourselves even when there is no need for it, just out of habit. With this protection, we hide the true reasons for our actions not only from others, but also from ourselves.
Looking behind the scenes of our own lives, we can make unexpected discoveries. And in order to understand them as best as possible, it is desirable for us to analyze as many aspects of our own life as possible.