There are ten basic human rights, knowing and observing which you can resist any manipulation.
1. I have the right to judge my own behavior, emotions, thoughts and take responsibility for their consequences
In order for communication to cease to be conflictual, it is worth considering that in any dialogue between two people, the rules will be equivalent for both. Conflict situations in relationships will constantly happen as long as they are built on submission, and not on mutual convenience.
If a person doubts whether he can be the ultimate judge of his behavior, he becomes powerless in controlling his destiny.
2. I have the right not to apologize or make excuses for my behavior
A self-confident person does not need to evaluate his behavior by others, so that they pass a verdict on how correct and correct it is. People will still voice their attitude about what you are doing, and that is their right. However, it is your right to ignore this opinion or to compromise and change your behavior in accordance with their wishes.
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3. I have the right to decide whether to take responsibility for other people's problems
Each person is solely responsible for his own happiness, well-being and success in life. No matter how strong our desire to help another in finding happiness and well-being, we have no opportunity to create all this for someone else.
A person can fulfill someone's wishes and do something pleasant, however, this other must be able to experience all the pain, fear of defeat and the severity of trials himself. He must independently build his life so as to be happy and healthy. Everyone learns for themselves how to deal with their problems. A person can be helped with advice, but he himself bears full responsibility for solving problems.
4. I have the right to change my mind and change my mind
It is human nature to change. Our choices and interests may change over time and conditions. It is always worth remembering that changing your mind is an absolutely healthy and normal reaction. You don't have to justify your new choice.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them
There is a well-known biblical saying that perfectly demonstrates to us that there are no people who would not make mistakes: "Let the one who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." Perfect people don't exist. Mistakes are part of being human. Errors should not be too important. You don't have to make up for every mistake you make with the right behavior.
6. I have the right to answer: “I don’t know”
Everyone has the right to make a decision, even if he does not have the ability to calculate all the possible consequences. You have the right to say “I don’t know” if you don’t know the answer to the question. This does not in the least speak about your irresponsibility.
7. I have the right not to depend on the attitude of others towards me
Whatever a person does, there will always be someone who will not like it and may even be offended in his feelings. If you believe that in order to be friendly you should not give the other a reason for resentment, then you give the opportunity to the other to manipulate it. And the more you strive to be benevolent, the more you will be manipulated.
You should not be in constant experience of how not to hurt someone's feelings. All people from time to time offend each other, this is life.
8. I have the right to make decisions without being guided by logic
Not every logical statement is true. Moreover, logical statements are not suitable for every situation, especially when it comes to aspirations, desires and feelings. In real life, emotions and desires cannot be evaluated using categorical assessments. A logical decision only means that you try to act based solely on what you fully know and understand. However, the solution to most problems goes beyond this logical framework.
9. I have the right to say that I do not understand
It is worth recognizing the fact that a person is not able to be absolutely receptive to understanding most of what is happening around. Nevertheless, our limited abilities do not prevent us from living. We gain knowledge with experience, however, we are not always able to understand the desires and intentions of other people. No one is able to read other people's thoughts, but many try to push us to what they want with the help of innuendo and hints.
10. I have the right to say: “I don’t care”, “I don’t care” or even “I don’t give a damn about it”
We are often faced with manipulation by others who try to tell us about our imperfection, and also that we need to improve. But you have every right to ignore this opinion, especially since the concepts of perfection differ from person to person.
This type of manipulation is the most difficult to deal with. You can stop manipulation by asking yourself - are you satisfied with yourself and your behavior? Do you want to change anything in yourself? After that, you can make your own correct decision about whether you need a change or not.
To stop manipulating and defend your rights, you need to change your behavior. After all, it is our behavior that gives rise to manipulation. Knowing about your rights is only half the battle, you still need to be able to defend them in practice. To do this, it is worth learning specific skills that will give firm words and behavior - confidence.