No matter how much they talk about the uniqueness of each person, nevertheless, the behavior of everyone in general can be considered identical. Our actions performed automatically, as a rule, are similar, and that is why psychology allows us not only to reveal each, but even to control the individual. The simplest and most effective techniques of this science of the "man of knowledge" can be safely applied in everyday life:
- If the answer of the interlocutor did not suit you, for example, he did not say something, expressed himself unclearly, or lied, you do not need to ask again. Instead, just silently and carefully look into his eyes - this technique will simply leave him no chance and he will be forced to continue his thought.
- If someone is yelling at you, make an effort on yourself and remain completely calm, remaining calm. The first reaction of screaming is anger, which your behavior will only provoke, but it will subside very quickly and reaction number two will begin - a feeling of guilt for your defiant and aggressive behavior. Most likely, it will be the screaming one who will ask for forgiveness.
- If you know that you will receive criticism from a person (they will make comments or scold), take courage and try to sit down or stand next to him - in this case he will soften and the negative will come from him many times less than if you were at a distance …
- Eating a person's food is associated with peace and safety, because we do it, most often, at home, within our own walls. That is why, if you are very anxious, chew the gum: it will trick our brain, giving the impression that you are eating, and, therefore, will make you feel more confident and calm.
- An old and proven method used by many students in the exam: to imagine that the teacher is your good and close friend, then it will be much easier to answer, and you will feel calmer. This trick works with any interviewer! Use it before an important interview.
- If everyone in the company starts laughing at once, then everyone at the level of instinct looks at who he likes the most, with whom he would like to become closer. Therefore, catch glances after a successful joke, learn a lot of new things.
- When meeting with a person, express a little more joy in his attitude: for example, smile sincerely or try to say his name softly and warmly, then over time you will begin to treat him much better in all seriousness, and the joy of the meeting will be sincere.
- If your work is connected with people, then you can "force" them to behave more politely and gently: put a mirror behind you so that your interlocutors see their reflection - as a rule, in the mirror we always try to look better, smile, and see ourselves as angry and we don't want to be harmful.
- Do you want to attract the attention of a person you like? Look intently at the object directly behind his shoulders, and as soon as you realize that you have caught his eye on yourself, quickly look the “victim” in the eyes and smile a little - it works flawlessly.
- In fact, we can control our stress: when you are very anxious, feel how you began to breathe deeper, how your heart pounds faster and try to force yourself to breathe more calmly and balance the pounding. We really can do it.
- Do you want to win over a person at the first meeting to get his sympathy? Just determine his eye color at the time of meeting: eye contact is favorable to you.
- When setting some requirements or conditions, initially raise the bar. Most likely, the person will not agree to this and refuse. But, on the other hand, on the real conditions that you will offer later, he will agree one hundred percent: people are inclined to give you less, if before that they refused you something more.
- People are drawn to individuals who are confident in themselves and their actions, so just show that you know exactly what you say or do (even if you are not really).
Finally, I would like to say that our facial expressions are closely connected with emotions: we raise our eyebrows when we are moved, squint our eyes when we cry. And vice versa: facial expressions affect the internal state - if right now you are making a grimace similar to the one that appears on your face when crying, most likely, tears will start rolling in by themselves. Use this feature to your advantage: smile! Smile just like that, for no reason, and in just a few seconds this smile will become real and sincere!