Can't stop thinking about the guy you met at your friend's birthday party? You think about him, looking out the window, while working, waiting for the call and already imagining a joint future. These dizzying thoughts can indicate love. Still in doubt about your own feelings? Then listen to the conclusions of scientists who have discovered that the brain of a person in love exists according to its own laws.
Are you sure that your chosen one is unique
When a person is in love, he begins to think that his partner is unique, one of a kind in the whole universe. This blind faith is fueled by the inability to focus on other people. Temporarily, your mind loses its ability to make comparisons and is literally paralyzed by the chemical dopamine. But you seem to have nothing against it.
You focus on positive qualities
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For psychologists, the signs of falling in love are obvious. If one person begins to elevate the other above everyone, endow him with superpowers, while completely not noticing the shortcomings, this indicates a suddenly flared up feeling. The man in love focuses his attention on trivial things and objects that are related to the chosen one or the chosen one. He carefully keeps lovely gifts and souvenirs, and also scrolls through the moments of the first meeting in his mind. This keen attention is also a result of increased levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine and norepinephrine, a neurotransmitter that responds to new stimuli.
Emotional instability
Falling in love provokes emotional and physiological instability. At one moment you feel excited, a surge of emotions and energy, euphoria, trembling and rapid breathing, and after a few minutes you may be disappointed, feel a sense of panic and despair, anxiety and refuse to eat. Meetings are incredibly exciting, and partings are like a little death. These mood swings are reminiscent of the addiction experienced by drug addicts. When you are not with a loved one, you suffer and experience a real withdrawal.
Increased attraction
If your couple goes through trials, you feel like you are getting closer to the chosen one. "Fire, Water and Copper Pipes" enhances the romantic attraction. Research shows that delaying pleasure triggers dopamine-producing neurons in the brain.
Obsessive thoughts
Lovers note that on average, they spend 85 percent of their free time thinking about the object of desire. Obsessive thoughts, as a form of obsessive behavior, lead to decreased levels of serotonin in the brain. It is known that obsessive-compulsive disorder associated with an obsession with a particular idea is treated with drugs from the group of serotonin reuptake inhibitors.
Emotional addiction
People in love regularly show signs of emotional dependence on partners. They are characterized by a sense of possessiveness, jealousy, fear of rejection, fear of separation, obsession. Researchers studied the processes in the brains of volunteers while viewing photographs of former lovers who initiated the breakup. It turned out that the rejected person experiences activation in several areas of the brain, including the one that is involved in the formation of addiction. This may explain why abandoned lovers are prone to compulsive behavior.
Planning for the future
A person in love will look for any ways to get closer to their second rug. Therefore, it is not surprising that all his dreams are aimed at forming a vision for a joint future for the couple. Functional studies using MRI brain scans have shown that people who look at a photo of their significant other activate a zone responsible for reward and euphoria. This puts love on a par with survival systems (like greed or lust). Scientists believe that romance may be part of humanity's reproductive strategy.
Sympathy
Lovers tend to empathize with each other. They let the pain of the chosen one or the chosen one pass through themselves and are ready for self-sacrifice.
Harmonization of interests
Partners who have feelings for each other tend to streamline their daily priorities. They want to look the way their other half wants. That is why you will listen to the opinion of the chosen one regarding the choice of dress, hairstyle or accessories. Scientists believe that one of the partners is a testosterone-dominant person who pairs with a person with high levels of estrogen and oxytocin (hormones responsible for sensitivity and trust).
Feelings of attraction
People in love are sexually attracted to each other. In addition, there are a number of accompanying emotional conditions, including possessiveness, a desire for sexual exclusiveness, extreme jealousy, and suspicion of cheating. Scientists believe that all of these criteria have an evolutionary background. Nature has made it so that lovers must reject other candidates and candidates until conception occurs.
Desire for an emotional union
Sexual relationships fuel love, but an equally important factor in bonding is the desire of partners to connect emotionally. One of the opinion polls showed that 64 percent of respondents in love immediately disagreed with the statement "sex is the most important component of our relationship." Curiously, this belief was characteristic of both men and women.
When passion gets out of hand
Many lovers note that their passion is uncontrollable and involuntary. Participants in scientific experiments claim that they feel as if their heart has been stolen, and their will is controlled by some unknown irrational force.
The fire of love is slowly dying out
Unfortunately, love doesn't last forever. This condition makes people vulnerable and requires tremendous emotional commitment. After the birth of children in harmonious couples, a new stage of love begins, which psychologists call attachment. If there are physical, emotional and social barriers between spouses, the bond falls apart.
Inga Kaisina