There may be people around a person who literally feed on his energy. How do you recognize them? If, after communicating with some friends, acquaintances and colleagues, you feel empty, squeezed out like a lemon, your head starts to hurt, your mood deteriorates, and drowsiness appears, most likely, one of the energy vampires has wound up in your environment. It is he who pulls the life forces out of you. This person will do everything to experience negative emotions - so he gets pleasure and is fueled by energy.
Types of energy vampires
There are several types of energy vampires. It is extremely important to stay away from them (unless, of course, these are your close people - in this case, you will have to talk with them on this topic and convince them to control your actions, emotions and deeds).
Controller
This type of energy vampire always has his only correct opinion on any issue. He often has leadership positions. When one of his colleagues dares to argue with him, he deprives the daredevil of the prize, orders that overtime be added to him. In other words, it makes the person understand who is the boss.
Similar people behave in the same way with their relatives and friends. At home, both the husband (wife) and the children walk along the line, because if the “controller” is dissatisfied, everyone will lose.
Whiner
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The whiner does not know how to enjoy life and sees only the bad in everything. Let's say you invite him to dinner at a fancy restaurant. The whiner will begin to dissuade you with such phrases: "We will surely get stuck in a traffic jam, we will have to look for a parking place for a long time, there will be a lot of people in the restaurant and we will have to wait for an order for two hours, and it is cold outside, so why go anywhere at all?" If you still do not give up, then you will have the most boring evening of your life.
The whiner will complain, seek sympathy and support from you, and all reasonable arguments that you give will be refuted by the words: “You do not understand me! I suffer so much …”So maybe it’s better not to try to understand him?
Narcissus
The narcissist is usually a pretty handsome person. He knows about this and requires constant attention from others to his person. At first, people are drawn to him, fascinated by his natural beauty, but as soon as he opens his mouth, the first impression completely dissipates.
If you try to talk to such a person, he will not let you insert a word about himself, the conversation will be conducted exclusively about him. He does not care about the problems of others, but he does not hesitate to ask friends and acquaintances to solve his own. Rejections are not accepted, otherwise you will be deleted from his list of friends.
The narcissist seeks companionship and seems like a nice person, but only at first glance. In fact, he needs admiration, serenades, compliments and standing ovation. If you are not ready to join Narcissus's fan club, try to stay away from him.
Critic
The critic loves to express his opinion, even when he is not asked about it. He can calmly say to his wife (husband): “Why did you buy such a short dress? You are not a model to show your legs! At the same time, the Critic will not even understand that he offended the person. This behavior seems normal to him.
If you share an idea with the Critic, he will definitely let you know that it is a failure. Tell us about your upcoming vacation at sea - hear that it is better to relax in the mountains, share the cakes that you baked yourself - learn that Grandma Critica cooks much tastier, etc. It is useless to argue with him, he will stand his ground to the end.
Assistant
The assistant will definitely offer you his help if you need it. It would seem, what's wrong with that? But not everything is so simple!
Let's say it's time for you to get out of maternity leave, but you don't want to leave your child with a nanny. A mother or mother-in-law comes to the rescue, who quits her job and devotes all her free time to her grandson. You save money and are calm about the child, because a loved one is next to them.
But later, the Assistant begins to dictate his conditions regarding the upbringing of the baby, the arguments are simple: “I helped you anyway! I have a voice in this house!"
And now the Assistant is already easily manipulating you, and you just have to obey his order. Although in fact it would be enough to say: "Thank you for your help, then we are on our own."
Source: Daria magazine