By the end of the 19th century, everyone knew how to properly equip an apartment, hire a servant and take care of their reputation, and those who had forgotten were helped by the book of Yuryev and Vladimirsky "Rules of High Life and Etiquette". A special place in it is given to marriage. We put ourselves in the shoes of a young couple who lives in the beautiful Russian era, and learn about old wedding customs.
How to choose a wife
Give preference to meekness and nobility over wealth, noble birth, good looks and bodily delights. Don't marry for beauty alone: appearances are deceiving. Spiritual beauty is another matter:
Don't marry a narrow-minded woman. Mental limitation occurs when there is not a single gap in a person - only callousness of the soul, a tendency to gossip and laziness and other negative qualities.
Don't marry an angry woman. If you do not know what disposition your beloved is - get to know her family better. Look at the nature of the mother, as well as how your chosen one interacts with her parents, brothers and sisters.
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How to choose a husband
When choosing your husband, do not be hasty and soberly assess your feelings. Don't blindly surrender to love.
Decide what is more important to you - to marry a worthy person or just get married. But remember: marriage does not solve all problems.
Pay attention to how your chosen one behaves in different situations. Love is love, but do not lose sight of what kind of father and friend your husband will be.
How to make an offer
Before offering a girl a hand and a heart, a potential groom should visit her parents. The girl may not be present.
The groom must take care of the rings. Of course, about the special ones, given the solemnity and romance of the occasion.
After the engagement, the groom can give the bride a ring with a stone. Loyalty, constancy, happiness are symbolized by turquoise or opal. Giving the wrong stone is a big embarrassment.
How to behave at a wedding
In the appointment of the wedding time, give preference to the evening.
The bride should wear white. Especially fashionable fabrics - damask, antique moire, reps and satin; people with lower incomes can choose cashmere, alpaca or muslin.
The bride's bouquet should be purchased and delivered by the groom's elder friend, who is also the best man.
After the wedding, go home and receive the blessing of your parents with the images of Christ the Savior and the Virgin Mary. Of course, with bread and salt.
How to hold a wedding feast
Give up tiresome wedding feasts, it is not fashionable now.
After the wedding, you have 15 days to visit relatives and friends. But it is better to go to the estate - to practice in the arrangement of a joint life - or on a trip.
In some cases, a wedding ball or feast is allowed. They are usually arranged at the expense of the parents of the young wife. And the newly made husband is better prepared for the fact that his wife will not perform the first dance with him:
The wedding feast ends with a toast to the newlyweds, which is proclaimed by the best men.
Author: Lyudmila Kotlyarova
