Dreams from the series "for children under sixteen" are not so rare. Many see them, but not many dare to admit it. They are ashamed of their licentiousness, they begin to suspect in themselves bad inclinations … But is there really something seditious in watching erotic dreams?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS WORLD
If someone sees a nightmare at night, everyone around will know about it in the morning. Another thing is erotic dreams. We are silent about them, like partisans, it's a shame after all.
But let's think sensibly: are we a sinner that from time to time we visit erotic fantasies? After all, we have no control over our dreams. Doesn't that comfort you much? Then let's turn to dry statistics.
Americans have found out that erotic dreams appear to each of us at least once in a lifetime. In general, 8% of dreams are sexual in nature. But for some it is a dream with a light flirtation, while for others the plot of the "film" is twisted according to all the rules of erotic, yes, pornographic cinema. For 70% of women and almost 100% of men, such "pictures" are not limited to ahs and sighs on the bench. Real African passions boil in them with violent caresses, passionate kisses and orgasm at the end.
In medieval Europe, the blame for such night visions was blamed on demons who brazenly penetrate into the bed of the sleeping people. The women were allegedly corrupted by the incubus, and the succubus was having fun with a strong half of humanity.
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YOURSELF DIRECTOR
What do psychologists think about this today? Unlike Sigmund Freud, who reduced all sensual symbols in a dream to the sexual preoccupation of their "owners", modern specialists have greatly changed their view of eroticism in a dream. They now believe that, first, not all erotic visions are sexually motivated. Secondly, that it is quite harmless and safe thing. And if in real life a person is deprived of full sex, "sleepy" erotica even plays a salutary role, compensating for the lack of emotions and balancing the psyche.
In other words, if your erotic dream does not cause concern, and in the morning you wake up cheerful and happy, then everything is ok. After all, these dreams give you a gorgeous opportunity to be at the same time their scriptwriter, stage director, leading actor and spectator.
FROM THE RANGE OF WON
It is a completely different matter when an erotic dream turns into a nightmare that haunts all night long: betrayal of a spouse, scenes of violence or sex with Freddy Krueger. If this is your case, it is possible that you are developing a neurosis on sexual grounds. Probably, the body sends a kind of signal: something is wrong in your life. Obviously, in an intimate sense, you are fed up with routine. Or maybe it's not about sex at all, and you, like air, need your partner's attention, his tenderness and affection.
But sometimes I dream of something that does not climb into any gate. “Once I saw a beggar,” our reader writes. - He was disgusting. All day I was haunted by his image. And at night this awful old man dreamed of me. And in what role! I enjoyed having sex with him!"
There is nothing wrong with this: in our memory those events and people who made some impression on us often settle. To prevent such dreams from settling in the subconscious, psychologists advise not to take them to heart. Better yet, safely forget about them.
WITHOUT CENSORSHIP
Sometimes, by the strength of sensations, sex in a dream turns out to be much brighter and stronger than in reality. Why? Our consciousness is switched off at night, but not completely. It seems to be losing its vigilance. We get a wonderful chance to briefly release the erotic genie from the bottle of subconsciousness. Thanks to this, in a dream there are no taboos, moral norms and boundaries of what is permitted. Morality rests, and sexual fantasies are taken for granted. In our bed may be a brother, matchmaker, neighbor. In addition, many of us in real life are very squeezed in sex. And in a dream, the "floodgates" open, and there is no trace of constraint.
MAN AND WOMAN
Nighttime affairs have some gender differences. In a dream, any man becomes a real giant of great sex. The erotic dream of Adam's son is rarely complete without physical intimacy and orgasm. As for the fair sex, they are more indecisive. The overwhelming majority of ladies only dare to have an ordinary "sleepy" romance with kisses and hugs. And only a small number - for bed madness.
However, women become liberated with age. The peak of sexual (sleepy!) Activity falls on the age of 30, and older ladies do "go all out" - just think - get an orgasm in a dream. Scientists explain this by the fact that in real life, the fair sex, unfortunately, is often deprived of such pleasure.
Women in a dream sees themselves next to popular actors and singers. But men are indifferent to "celestials". The male world of sexual dreams is inhabited by quite real women, often seen by chance, those with whom they stood in line for sausage or went to the dacha by train.
WHAT DO YOU DREAM?
The erotic stories that our subconscious mind twists at night always mean something. Let's say you are making love with your old partner, although the new romance is fine with you. What is it for? You are probably comparing a past relationship with a current one, because you are afraid of repeating a pattern of relationships that does not suit you.
Do you enjoy the unearthly pleasure of making love with a colleague or neighbor with whom you would never go to bed in your life? Sex has nothing to do with it: when friendships are painted in erotic tones, it means that you are sympathetic to this acquaintance, that's all.
If you have had an orgasm with a person whose faces you do not remember, you are probably not satisfied with your real partner.
Do strangers interfere with intimate relationships, or does someone interrupt them at the most piquant moment? You live with an eye on the opinions of others. Or maybe everything is much simpler: consciousness burst into sleep, and the trick failed.
If in a dream you are painfully looking for a place to indulge in passion, one of two things: either you are preoccupied with finding a new life partner, or there are a lot of difficulties in existing relationships.
Do you see yourself as a homosexual or a lesbian? No, this is not a change in orientation, you are probably trying to understand the psychology of people or a specific acquaintance that is different from you.
After a romantic foreplay, your passion suddenly "evaporated"? Deep down, you doubt your own ability to fool the person you like.
Is sex in a dream or a partner unpleasant and even disgusting to you? Your mind must be looking for a compromise with your subconscious, trying to overcome the inner stiffness.
Do animals become objects of desire? Do not be alarmed, you are unlikely to suffer from zoophilia. Your bizarre subconscious has found a workaround, because there are no social prohibitions in the animal world that condemn copulation.
THE ONE STILL SYMBOLISM
Symbols are also not the last thing in erotic dreams. For example, a woman dreamed of a spreading palm tree. Try to guess what this means? Meanwhile, the "sleepy" interpreters give a concrete answer: the lady dries on the man's affection. But a dream in which you keep your own harem is not good. Obviously, you are channeling your energies in the wrong direction. If a lady sees herself as a concubine, it seems that in life she is looking for forbidden joys. If you dream that you are having fun in a brothel, in reality you are in trouble.
Dreamed kisses are also not silent: in the dark they portend danger, and in the light - noble and bright relationships with the opposite sex. But blowing kisses promise an interesting and fun journey.
If in a dream you indulge in all seriousness, disdaining ten years of married life, in reality get ready for monetary losses.
If you see how your faithful cynically violates the sanctity of the marriage bond, triumph: nothing threatens your union in life.
A striptease in a dream promises illness or financial difficulties.
Hugging in a dream is undoubtedly pleasant, but sleepy interpreters warn that this is a big quarrel. And the notorious love making according to the dream book does not bode well: this is to the obstacles and delays that you provoked. As they say, you have to pay for everything in this world, even for nighttime pleasures!
Natalia BYKOVA