Is it possible to win over the public and inspire confidence in oneself absolutely in different situations, knowing how to competently influence people? The most important golden rule in the technique of manipulating a person's opinion allows you to achieve the favor of any person and a complete trusting disposition towards yourself. It consists in the fact that the main task of the hidden control of a person is to make a person like himself.
To achieve this golden rule, you must follow the guidelines. The first advice, without fail in your statements, during the conversation, deliberately, but not forcedly, make a mistake. The main thing is that it looks natural and natural, and does not seem too pretentious. For example, in the pronunciation of a word or in the structure of the sentence structure. At the same time, we definitely give the audience the opportunity to point out these mistakes and amend the speech. We pretend to be embarrassed and thank for the corrections, showing that we are not perfect.
When listeners have the opportunity during communication to correct the interlocutor, finding on his part a lively response and full approval, they feel more confident. Then they communicate with such a mentor much more freely. When the audience sees the speaker's imperfection, notices mistakes in his statements, then, oddly enough it sounds, it becomes more disposed towards him.
Secondly, it is imperative to talk with people about them, you need to show them a sincere interest, and not go out of your way to interest them in your person. When a person feels interested in his person, he has the same important brain pleasure centers that are involved when eating delicious food or when receiving large sums of money. Be sure that thanks to the person's subconscious gratitude, location and complete trust will be provided on his part.
The third tip, during the conversation, be sure to make compliments on behalf of a third party, otherwise they will directly sound too intrusive, and people will only experience discomfort. For example, say that the employees of the department, or even better someone from the management or administration, speaks very well of this person and praises his merits, citing his work as an example to everyone.
You can refer to the characteristics of positive personal qualities and housekeeping skills in a non-working environment, for example, praise the interlocutor on behalf of a third party for delicious pies made with your own hands, or for a beautiful well-groomed summer cottage.
During the conversation, be sure to sympathize, sharing the emotions of the interlocutor, thereby confirming the attentive attitude towards him. However, if a person, especially in a managerial position, begins to talk about his difficult day, you just need to silently listen to the interlocutor, not lamenting how unfortunate he is. You can get by with the usual statement that the person really had a difficult day, but he was a fine fellow and coped with the difficulties himself. In no case, in this case, do not repeat the words after the interlocutor, otherwise it will alert him, and he can easily feel even a subtle falsity in speech.
Fifth recommendation, ask for a small, non-burdening service. Whoever has once provided even a small help, most likely, will willingly help again and in a larger favor than if, on the contrary, the help was originally provided to them. This reverse effect is called the Benjamin Franklin Effect. In a situation when a person renders a service to someone, he grows in his own eyes, his self-esteem grows, he becomes self-confident. But there should be a fine line here, you should not abuse petty requests, even for minor help.
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The sixth piece of advice is to bring the conversation to such a point that the person could not resist and begin to praise himself. For example, having heard from a person how he worked from morning until late at night to get the job done on time, one can say in response that this requires an iron will. The interlocutor will surely pick up this thought and summarize how much effort and effort he spent on this matter, and will not refrain from praising himself, believing that he did a great job. To bring the conversation so that the person could not resist and praise himself, this level is considered aerobatics of the interlocutor's disposition to himself. After this, you will not just get trust from the interlocutor, but you will completely like him.
It is imperative to avoid mistakes in communication that people make without even realizing it, and thereby spoil the first impression of themselves. We must remember that behavioral advice must be applied in a timely manner and on the spot, otherwise the opposite terrible result will turn out.
It is especially important to invisibly draw the boundaries of what is permissible in order to make it clear to the interlocutor, beyond which limits he should not go, which in communication will be absolutely unacceptable and even offensive. Do not suppress and swallow aggressive and offensive statements of a person. Establishing such a boundary, on the contrary, evokes respect from the interlocutor. For example, if you hear openly fascist, sexist, or racist comments addressed to you, calmly without raising your voice, say that you do not approve of the person's statements, and firmly ask him not to do so again.
There is a rule of four emotions that should be evoked in the interlocutor at the first communication in a certain order. The first should be the joy of the conversation, the positive attitude, the fun style, and the use of jokes to help the other person be in a good mood. Then the interlocutor's trust in the speaker's motives should follow. A charismatic person is not afraid to be sincere and does not pretend to be able to do what he is not really able to do. The conversation should clearly show respect for the person and his feelings both verbally and in body language. And only the fourth emotion will be the manifestation of sincere interest in the interlocutor. First, showing ourselves with the help of the first three evoked emotions, we kind of reveal to the person our fascinating personality, which is interesting and worth listening to.
Using the above little psychological tricks during a conversation gives people the joy of having such a pleasant conversation. And this, in turn, allows you to avoid unnecessary conflicts and live in peace with everyone.
