Energy vampires do not drink your blood, but feed on your emotions and steal your powers. It is better to stay away from these people, and if this is not possible, learn to resist them. After talking with some people, the mood rises, I want to smile and enjoy life. These are people with positive energy, and the more such personalities in your environment, the better your life.
But it happens the other way around: you talk to a person, and your soul becomes hard, your mood deteriorates, self-esteem falls. This is how a person feels after communicating with a typical "vampire". Look around - what if such a specimen has started up in your environment? It is not that difficult to recognize it.
Energy vampires
Critic
"What a pretty little dress, very successful - it doesn't show at all that you don't have a waist!" - like a compliment, but… offensive. Saying such "complements", a person is trying to assert himself at your expense. Criticizing others, he grows in his own eyes, he seems to himself smarter, more successful and more beautiful than those around him. Resourceful critics tend to pitch their stilettos in the form of praise, but the pricks don't get any less painful. The best way to neutralize an ill-wisher is to repay him with the same coin: "And what a good haircut you have, it looks great on your thin hair." Critics usually do not expect a rebuff and are "blown away" when they hear a "compliment" in return. Energy vampires really dislike such "responses"
Alarmist
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“Are you going to send your child to a children's camp in the summer? Are you out of your mind? I read how several years ago all the children were poisoned in the camp by poor quality food. There is also complete unsanitary conditions! The elders scoff at the younger ones, and the counselors do nothing but drink beer. The alarmist will ruin any suggestion, any idea in the bud. He will find a thousand and one reasons why you won't succeed. He will make you doubt your own strengths and decisions.
If you listen to his predictions, you will have to stay at home all the time, because danger lies in wait for you at every step. Do not even try to appeal to the arguments of reason - logic will not make any impression on the alarmist, because he lives in his parallel reality. The only thing left is not to tell him about your plans.
Chatterbox
“A good Italian restaurant has opened in the center. I will take you there somehow "," When it becomes easier at work, we will go on vacation together "- they used to say about such people in the old days:" Brechet as he breathes. " A person thoughtlessly makes promises left and right, but as soon as it comes to real action, he finds millions of excuses not to do anything. And you hope, make plans and wait, wait, wait … To bring the talker to clean water, you need to set him deadlines. Promises to take to the sea? Let him tell you exactly when. Answers “soon” and “I cannot say for sure yet” are not accepted. When a person fails the deadline once or twice, then it will definitely be clear that you should not count on him.
Victim
This person appears in your life when he is in trouble. For example, a friend remembers you only after breaking up with another lover, and you have the dubious honor of comforting her and listening to endless complaints about the "scoundrel." Or your little brother only calls you when he wants to borrow money. The best way to protect yourself from a victim is to attack: start complaining about the troubles in your life yourself. The salary on the robot is delayed, the eldest child does not get out of sick leave, he recently had a toothache, and had to leave a lot of money in a paid clinic, and then, as luck would have it, the stove broke, and also … do not let yourself be interrupted until you pour a tub of your own on the victim problems. From this pressure, energy vampires themselves fall into a stupor.
Offended
“Did you and Tanya go to the theater? They didn't call me? I just sat at home all evening and missed …”Such a character will be able to put pressure on your sore spots and call out a sense of guilt. Before you have time to look back, you begin to make excuses and promise to fix everything. Resentment is a very cunning manipulation, because guilt makes you do things that were not part of your plans. Mindfulness is the very weapon that will help you protect yourself and your interests. It is important to understand that an eternally offended person makes his claims to you not just like that, but in order to achieve the result he needs. If you clearly understand his motives, it will be easier for you to ignore the accusations and act out of your own interest.
Set up an emotional shield to ward off a vampire
If you find yourself face to face with a vampire person (for example, he is your companion) and you understand that you will not be able to avoid communication with him, put up an emotional shield. Mentally build a mirror wall between yourself and the unpleasant interlocutor. Imagine that the negative directed at you is reflected in the opposite direction. You will feel much better. Do not succumb to provocations, abstract as much as possible: think about something pleasant or start making plans for tomorrow. Seeing that you are not making contact, energy vampires will lag behind you.
Daria magazine # 1