So I wanted to start with 10 commandments … The world has been for so many years, and it seems that nothing new can be invented: “don't kill”, “don't steal”, “don't covet your neighbor's wife…”, “don't make yourself an idol…” etc..d … Everything around has reached perfection so much that at first glance there are no resources left for any innovations, but no, writes Сluber.
Often, mistakes underlie thoughts, actions, decisions, but some of their consequences are so wonderful that you want to make mistakes again and again. However, there are mistakes that cannot be made. 10 worst mistakes in human life:
1. Living in the past
For many people, amnesia and a little whiskey are enough to become happy, and as a result, they are guaranteed eternal progress. And others will never leave their "comfort zone". All people are different, but we all have equal opportunities. I'm not talking about social boundaries now, I'm talking about the purpose of life for each of us. About happiness. Even if the past brought us a sea of happiness, but now these memories prevent us from moving on, it's time to accept the fact that we have crossed the line that has grown like a stone wall behind our back.
A happy past is a certain stage in our development. When he is no longer there, and happy memories remain, you need to get new positive emotions so that in a year today's day will become a vivid memory. Happiness lies in life, and life itself is only a short moment.
2. Be afraid to take risks
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Everyone knows the phrase: "The Titanic was built by professionals, and the ark by amateurs." She inspires and inspires. Everything in life is elementary, we just like to complicate things. A familiar place is not always the ultimate dream. Perhaps your decision today to call the right person, send your resume to a high-paying position in a large corporation, withdraw money from the deposit ahead of time, send an offer to the most capricious client, or confess your feelings to a seemingly unattainable person - all this can change your whole life tonight.
You are afraid to take risks, because you are afraid that this may be your next mistake. But the world often values mistakes. Dialogue is born in them, and truth is born in dialogue. Some mistakes, reckless determination, or decision making with no guarantee of success leads to good luck and worldwide fame.
Take, for example, the first Harry Potter book, its author, J. K. Rowling, spent years looking for a publisher that would want to publish this fantastic story. Of course, it was unpleasant for her to hear 12 refusals, but she went forward to her goal. 12 publishers saw nothing special in the future world bestseller. And now both children and adults know and admire the story of an unusual boy.
You need to believe in yourself, in your strengths and in those around you. Without faith in the future and without the ability to take risks, there would be no bicycles, mobile phones, airplanes, computers, there would be no everything that seems the most necessary and commonplace. The world needs your risky decisions, but why is the world there, you yourself need them.
3. Do not live the way you want
There are people around whom life is in full swing. They think outside the box, brightly, sometimes illogical, but so for real. When such a person does not pick up the phone, you can not even imagine what took it into his head 10 minutes ago, and where his adventurous spirit took him this time. Perhaps he threw away the phone so as not to explain to others that he wanted to buy a new one, or instead of work he went to an orphanage to help the kids do their homework.
At first glance, it seems that such people are frivolous and not responsible. But they are happy. I do not call to be unpredictable, I only appeal to common sense. I urge you not to waste your life on an unloved business, on uninteresting people and in a hated place. Close your eyes and imagine what you want to do right now. Want some ice cream? - Go and buy!
Are you dreaming of a vacation? - Start to think over plans how to bring this bright day closer. Do you want intimacy with a nice person? - Look for common topics, start a conversation, and then enjoy the first flirting and its consequences. Don't be shy.
Look for ways not to wait for happiness in the future, but to enjoy it now.
4. Do not appreciate what you have
"You don't appreciate what you have." As banal as this phrase is, there is a lot of depth and life experience in it. For some reason we are looking for treasure on uninhabited islands, and it is often buried in our yard. We offend people, thinking that they will not go anywhere. We succumb to the mood and hang up. But there can be no happiness in the negative. There is no peace in the struggle. In the eternal search for positives, there is no finish.
The little things around us already make us special. Our world is a reflection of our thoughts. "Let's clean our heads" and the result will not be long in coming.
5. Thinking that happiness can be bought
People are used to saying that "money is not happiness", but they are all actively trying to earn "all the money in the world", they sit at work for days and forget what their children look like. It is difficult to live without money in the modern world. But there are people who work to live, and there are those who live to work. Of course, everything is not easy, but you need to learn how to balance on this fine line.
If happiness could be bought, then we would have lost it hundreds of years ago. It would be "illegally" bought up, sold out or buried in the depths of greed and selfishness. What is the beauty of happiness? In its availability. In a tender kiss, in the first cry of a child, in a sincere embrace, in the realization that a loved one is sleeping nearby and snoring sweetly. You can't buy happiness - and that's the whole thrill of life.
6. Live as if we are nobody to each other
On my deathbed, I don't want to remember all my sins as virtues and look at my life through the prism of excuses. Yes, the rules of our life are tough, but it is up to everyone to decide whether or not to play by these rules. Say, utopia? - But if you do not change the world yourself, how can you see changes in it? Greed, self-interest, heartlessness, blindness and deafness to the pleas of others are not the best tools for clearing karma.
We will live and cry, seeing how selfishly our grandchildren are fighting for a place in the sun. But there is enough room for everyone. You just need to remain human in any difficult situations. Maybe sometimes you should look for ways "bypassing". You do not need to live for the sake of utopia, you need to live for the sake of bright moments, and they will grow only from the understanding and compliance of people.
7. Be afraid
All fears and illnesses are born in our head. There are not so many demons outside as inside each of us. The external background only helps to "flourish" fear and to assert its position. What lies ahead is unknown, but there will not necessarily be a battlefield there. Perhaps there will be no worries, no worries, no unnecessary efforts ahead. And often the projection in the head is already embedded, thoughts are sent into space, and our body is constantly waiting for either pain or discomfort.
Fear must be fought only by eradicating its internal causes.
Enjoy any life situation and the process of life itself. Absolutely everything makes sense, you just need to look closely.
8. Be a perfectionist and have total control
The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a vivid example of an architect's mistake and a lack of accurate calculations. If the foundation was 2-3 times larger, it would be a shining example of the "steadfast tin soldier". More than 170 years of construction, and nevertheless, we will remember that the tower had an "original" slope even before the project was commissioned. Perfectionists are shocked, and the world arranges constant photo sessions.
Life is one continuous turmoil, and in order to find the perfect device for it, you can kill a lot of time and stay at a broken trough. The world cannot be controlled, it carries you with the flow, and you simply choose which raft to sail on: the raft of pleasure or eternal discontent. I am for life in the full sense of the word.
9. Thinking "You should …"
Sometimes you have to say a harsh thing, and you just don't want to hide it under a hundred softening phrases. Almost always, if you don't want to, then you shouldn't. And you shouldn't listen to those who inspire you that your desires are not important. “I don’t want to” will definitely fail.
Everyone writes their own story, everyone fights for their own truth. You don't owe anything if you don't want to.
A simple rule that is not so difficult to learn.
10. To regret what you did
It is pointless to reproach yourself. Did it or didn't. Did or didn't. He said or remained silent. Erased or written down. Everything remained where it belongs. Missed the opportunity? - So it was not your opportunity. You did everything the way you wanted to do it. At that moment, you could not have done otherwise. We draw conclusions and try to bypass all the rakes in our path. Do you want to step on the same rake again? - Though jump on them with a running start, the choice is yours, as are the bruises on the forehead from the blow.
There are no discoveries without random mistakes. There are no abstracts without corrections. There are no people without fail. The Titanic was considered a ship that no one could sink. It was in the perception of all the unsinkable monster of the ocean. And one night and the tip of the iceberg showed that people are very often wrong.
Some mistakes change the lives of millions for the worse, others work wonders. No need to waste time arguing whether there is any sense in everything. After all, the meaning lies in the state of happiness of each person. And the way to this happiness lies through knowing your desires.
Ekaterina Andreeva