In the previous article "Women's asceticism - lessons of love" I promised to talk about a very important women's asceticism - the ability to love oneself and take care of oneself.
Difficult austerity
It would seem, what could be easier than loving yourself? But in fact, very few people can do this. We are hindered by children's complexes, adult grievances, betrayal and so on - it seems to us that we are unworthy of love. We compare ourselves to others and think that we are worse than those around us. But as long as we think this way, we will not get better, not achieve anything in life, not even find love - because it is very difficult to love a person who does not love himself.
And one of the most important women's austerities is developing self-love and increasing self-esteem. This asceticism is considered not the easiest one, precisely because it is very difficult for us to do this, we do not love ourselves too much and do not believe in our strength.
How can you learn to love and respect yourself? To begin with, we must admit that every person - and, therefore, you too - is unique and special. Everyone has their own destiny, everyone is worthy of happiness and love. It is important to understand that many people whom you consider to be successful and happy also suffer from their own imperfection, and, perhaps, on the contrary, consider you an ideal.
Think about what you can be appreciated for, start a special notebook in which you write down your qualities and skills and merits - both innate and acquired. For example, I have beautiful hair, I am a great cook, I can get along with people and listen, I have a talent for drawing, my eyes are beautiful gray, etc. In any person you can find something beautiful and interesting - and in you too. And it is important to focus on the good that you have, appreciate it, emphasize - both for yourself and for others.
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The most beautiful
Curiously, appearance is a very important component of women's self-esteem. And this is not accidental, because the female destiny was originally the decoration of the world.
Louise Breslau, * Toilet *.
Many women forget about this and do not even understand why, they often experience depression, lose strength and energy - and all from the fact that they look bad. And caring for herself, for her appearance, clothes - this is one of the most important women's austerities, which makes her happy and contented with herself and life.
By the way, many women go to work solely because it makes them feel in good shape - they usually try to dress better, put on makeup, and so on at work. I once heard a story about a woman who worked from home - and every morning she dressed in office clothes and put on makeup - and this allowed her to maintain a good mood and efficiency. And this is a very important feminine quality - the ability to be beautiful at home, even if no one sees.
Beautiful clothes, cosmetics, well-groomed hair, nails, hands, feet - all this pacifies a woman, allows her to love herself, to feel like an important and beautiful part of the world. And that is why this women's asceticism is so important - if you love yourself, then you begin to love others, and they reciprocate you.
Many women with condemnation and contempt treat those ladies who are obsessed with their appearance and do not crawl out of stores and beauty salons, consider them meaningless and empty-headed. However, overly glamorous ladies usually achieve their goals - they find rich husbands, become beauty gurus, fitness bloggers, etc. So it's still better to be too pretty than too ugly.
If you are ugly, then you are not performing the main female austerity. Because there are no ugly women at all. There are women who have completely neglected themselves, their nature, their appearance. In fact, you can make a written beauty out of any ugly woman. And it is not so difficult and does not require special financial investments. Light physical activity, preferably yoga and dancing, proper women's nutrition (remember that it should be based on milk, vegetables and sweets), natural hair and skin masks that can be made from the simplest and most affordable ingredients, neat clothes, the smell of a clean body, a happy smile, love for oneself and others - and literally every woman becomes an irresistible beauty …
Natalia Trubinovskaya