Introduction
You are on time, the article has just begun! How to be an adult, do they need to be at all, or should they remain children, and then success will deign to us? - this is where the problem of growing up arises, because as usual we have no idea on the topic “Who you need to be in order for everything to go well”.
Growing up problem
We don't have so many options. If you remain a child in your adult life, then most likely you will not be able to control it, you will not be able to get together to do something in it and break out into people. The second option is to stop being a child and become an adult, but then colors, interest and childish joy disappear from life - the alignment is also not so hot.
It turns out that rushing to one of the extremes will not be a worthy decision, but trying to find a delicate balance between a child and an adult within yourself is definitely worth it.
Child perfection
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All people are different - this is not news, but here is the news: whoever they are, in any case a perfect person is born to them. All that is required of parents is not to screw up perfection in an attempt to accommodate the child for independent living.
Frankly, we can teach little children, but you can learn from them almost everything. Trying to reveal the question “How to remain a child and what is the strength of children?”, We have highlighted nine main points.
Unlimited
The limitation of a person in his life is due to the limitation of his mind. Try to find at least one child on the planet who, in his imagination, would be at least somewhat limited. In his own world, a child can become anything and have anything.
If a small person firmly intends to be the director of a railway company, then after a couple of minutes he will notice a couple of belts in the closet and, cheerfully moving them across the floor, will begin to carry out his first transportation.
It is we, twisted by growing up, inventing problems, and the child never relies on initial data, if he needs to realize an idea, then he will take it and implement it without any doubts. This ability allows children to be flexible, think outside the box and find non-obvious solutions to problems.
Openness
Lying is an invention of adults, and children are transparent like glass. The child is open, his behavior always expresses his feelings. The child does not need to hide anything or be ashamed of himself, since he never thinks that in some places he is not beautiful. Therefore, children can easily sing or dance among a crowd of strangers, while not at all embarrassed by their choreographic or vocal abilities.
Due to openness, children do not have problems with self-esteem, and they are confident, and an adult is often inclined to show the world not what he is, highlighting the problem of his growing up.
Interaction
The child is in dire need of attention and love, because he always strives to be among people and interact with them. Children easily grasp the idea of unity, which we talked about, answering the question "What is the meaning of human life?" It is obvious for children that a holiday is possible only next to other people.
The child can calmly come up and talk to you as if you know each other or smile when passing by. Interaction allows the child to feel part of the whole and feel their own weight. Children do not have any problems finding a common language with other people, and they can communicate with adults without hesitation, which not every mature adult can boast of.
Interest
There is no more curious person than a child. Depending on age and temperament, the child asks from 100 to 300 questions a day. By the way, this is why the younger generation is so susceptible to computer addiction.
Children are in a hurry to live in order to know the world as fully as possible, which is why the child, of his own free will, always does only what is interesting to him. Interest is the main component of human movement, therefore the loss of interest in life is one of the consequences of the problem of growing up.
Ability to rejoice
For some reason, we believe that adult life obliges us to be serious - this makes us the grayest creatures in nature. A child, unlike an adult, knows how to extract joy from nothing. A cloud, a flower or a puddle can become a subject for fun, where can we go without it ?!
As a person grows up, he creates a problem - he loses the ability to rejoice and may not smile even once in a day, but this is unacceptable for a child, children always smile a lot.
Energy
Looking at a child, the first question to be asked is: “Where does so much power come from in such a small organism ?!”. Children clearly understand that movement is life, so the information from the article "What is action" is clear to them at an instinctive level.
Children want to try, check, feel and evaluate everything, and an adult often prefers to follow the path of least resistance and not waste energy again. In the Stone Age, it was a successful survival strategy, but now it is no longer relevant. Modern life allows us to look much deeper than trivial survival, but very often we prefer not to see the world beyond an arm's length.
Subtle sense of the world
Over the years, a person becomes coarse, ceases to listen to himself, and he begins to observe the outside world not very carefully, if at all he does not stop noticing this world.
The child never gives his feelings, he is clearly able to capture his mood in relation to everything. It is difficult to compete with children in discernment, because they do not know with their mind, they know with their soul, and such knowledge cannot be distorted by the outside world.
Innocence
The child does not cultivate evil in himself, is not able to restrain it, he quickly forgets the bad. Children do not rely on negativity, as it does not correspond to the ideas with which the child lives. He is interested in rejoicing, learning and loving, and evil simply does not fit into these principles, therefore the child easily forgives, but in principle he practically never thinks about the bad.
In this regard, an adult seems to be disabled, because we are able to hate, betray, keep negative in ourselves - all these abilities were not in a person at birth, therefore the “problem of growing up” is not a mythical concept, but a fact that actually exists in people's lives.
Conciseness
You can play a game called "Find the extra in your child" and you will surely lose. In children there is nothing but what the children themselves need. They do not load their heads with left thoughts, they do not do what they do not see the point in, they do not have unnecessary or unnecessary toys. The life of a child is as full as possible, which means that there is simply no place for unnecessary things in it.
An adult, on the contrary, often tries to fill his empty life with at least something, so he is not particularly picky in his choice and buys what he really does not need, communicates with people in whom he does not find anything, wastes time on TV shows, social networks and games, just to keep yourself occupied and not think about anything.
Adult perfection
A child is great for the environment in which it is born, but this does not mean that all older brothers are victims of the problem of growing up. We also have a number of superpowers that a child needs to acquire in order to adapt to life in an “adult” environment.
The main weapon of an adult is his intellect. Intelligence refers to the ability to perceive the world consciously, observe, analyze and draw conclusions. You can glimpse the level of modern life, take a look at the complex social structure of human society and the conclusion about the high intellectual abilities of an adult will ask for itself.
A child constantly draws and borrows everything from adults, but an adult, thanks to his intellect, can independently choose what exactly and from whom he should borrow and whether it is worth doing in principle.
This is how our uniqueness manifests itself, because we become able not to fall under the influence of the outside world, and this allows us to grow in the direction that we like, to form our opinion and be a person. Now we can potentially acquire or remove any personality traits in ourselves.
Being a person with a developed intellect, a person becomes a limitless being. As a result, we get opportunities thanks to which we can reveal ourselves and bring something into this world - this is the description of a person who successfully managed to overcome the problems of growing up.
Why We Stop Being Children
We considered the strengths, so we know what to strive for. It will not be superfluous to learn about exactly how we solve the question "How to be an adult ?!" and at the same time we kill the beauty in ourselves.
Copying
A child at such a young age is not able to understand much in the life of an adult, but this does not cancel the unrestrained desire to learn and absorb, and the simplest and most reliable learning mechanism is to copy the behavior of adults.
The child subconsciously understands that one day he too will become an adult, and therefore should learn from adults. But such a system has one major flaw: when children notice a big difference between themselves and adults, they try to reduce it as much as possible, not really realizing that an adult in the process of life could lose all perfection and become not the best example to follow. Hence the problem of growing up.
Desire to be strong and meaningful
The child is vulnerable, it is easy to hurt him, he quickly falls under the influence of other people. The desire to root out the baby inside is often linked to the need to protect oneself.
If we are open, kind and dreamy, then someone might try to take advantage of this. Armed with suspicion, we begin to regard our childhood qualities as weaknesses, we are even ashamed of them, and we manage to be children only in exceptional cases.
How often do we listen to children? They still do not have much experience and knowledge, so adults are reluctant to give weight to the child's opinion. Being inert is not fun at all, which is why it is partly children who try to grow up to be noticed.
Prohibitions by adults
Although the child is not limited in his head, he is limited in the real world, because there are parents above him, who set the limits - this is natural.
Children strive to grow up, because they see freedom and opportunities in adult life: an adult is not limited by what toys to play and how to spend his time - the dream of any child.
What Happens When We Grow Up
So we have successfully achieved the set task - we have driven the child out of ourselves and have become adults. Finally, everything will be fine: freedom, opportunities and success await us! True, in the real world, the life of the average adult becomes endlessly boring and mundane. Often this is an unchanging daily routine, some kind of dull work, a narrow circle of contacts and interests.
In addition, responsibility adds fuel to the fire, which was sharply drawn when we began to be independent and no longer rely on parental shoulders. In adulthood, you have to make decisions, deal with problems and make a lot of mistakes. And making mistakes is unpleasant, especially when you realize that you yourself were the reason.
Noticing such an unfavorable situation, we feel deceived and strive to jump back into childhood. As a result, we are neither adults, nor children, but an incomprehensible intermediate something that is panicky trying to at least somehow concretize itself - this is the most unfavorable outcome of the problem of growing up.
How to be an adult and remain a child
The good news is that nothing needs to be learned, since the child inside us lives outside of age and time, but the older we get, the more we try to hide it.
Emancipation
We hide the child, because this is the way it is in our world. The desire to organically coexist with society is a very cool desire, but when a person does not use his own brain in this process, a cool desire turns into a tragedy.
As a result, we are forced to show the world what we are not. Relying thoughtlessly on society, we shackle ourselves and deprive other people of the opportunity to contemplate our true beauty. So one person hides the best from the other, and the other hides the best from the first, and both believe that everything is going well.
The child inside us is our essence, it is illegal to hide it, this behavior is more like not a problem of growing up, but a whole apocalypse on a human scale.
We should be liberated: give ourselves more freedom; do what we really like; say what's on our mind; behave the way we feel. Yes, there is a risk that a part of the person's environment will leave him, because he will not weakly begin to get out of their concepts, and they will not tolerate this. But instead of such guys, others will come who will appreciate your nature and begin to admire it.
Don't rely on age
Age is a great example of how funny norms are sometimes set in society. The fact is that now we rely on age and even try to draw some ridiculous conclusions based on it.
If from the moment of your birth the Earth has walked around the sun only 10 times, then in winter you can safely ride on the priest along the icy slope, but if the planet surpasses the sun 30 times, for example, then riding on the priest from the slope is already unacceptable for many.
So what has changed? Has the ice slope become smaller or less attractive for skiing? - Fairy tales, nothing has changed, there are only rules that we ourselves have created.
If a person were left alone on the planet for 5 minutes, he would not miss the opportunity to ride with the breeze, but while there is a feeling that you are among other people, you need to somehow correspond to them, at the same time hiding your desires in a distant dark box, that's we get the problem of growing up.
The truth is that the more highly organized a person is, the less he relies on his own age and the age of other people. And people who believe that they are already too old for something or, conversely, still too young, become hostages of their own rules.
In years it is convenient to calculate the duration of your stay on Earth, but age is a variable fluctuating in a wide range, which is determined only by our inner sensations, therefore, correlating your physical age with some norms and adhering to them is a ridiculous decision.
Do not complain about education
“Why are you so little ?!”, “When will you grow up ?!”, “How much more babysitting with you ?!” - familiar phrases? Parents are one of the actors who help us forget about the child inside. But here it is important to understand the following: no parent wants to specially raise their child badly. It's just that someone's upbringing is coming out, and someone has no idea about the topic of our conversation today.
Of course, upbringing plays its role, but the distance in life is long, and whatever the hitch at the start, if we wish, it will not negatively affect the final result. Therefore, justifying one's inability to be a child with the phrase “I was raised like this” is a very weak approach.
So we only show our unwillingness to somehow correct ourselves, because if desired, no upbringing will stop a person from becoming what he wants.
Watch children
Observation is a very serious tool that we advised to use, for example, to be grateful. How to stay a child? - to observe children. If you have children, then you don't need to go anywhere, you just need to consciously interact with them.
If there are no children, then the benches near the playgrounds will save the day. You can watch a child forever, because this is not at all what we are used to seeing in our adult environment. This is the difference that will be great to think about in the process. If possible, it is best to communicate with children, so it will be easier to understand their essence.
Staying a child to be an adult
Perhaps a dumb question has arisen among the public: “Why is there so much attention on how to remain a child, and no information on how to be an adult ?!”. Let's understand the terminology.
The concept of "child" is our real I, our essence. "Adult" is not an essence, but just an additional configuration of a child, which is expressed by two abstract things: intellect and personality. The whole power of this configuration is that it protects the child from too reckless ventures and gives him unlimited possibilities.
The principle here is that if you throw out its essence from the mechanism, then no additional configurations will save it, but if you leave the essence and keep it sacred within yourself, then the new superstructure will only make it even more beautiful. In short, only a child can appreciate adulthood, and this seems to be the coolest approach to the problem of growing up.
Adults take everything for granted: their mind, the strength of their own personality, even the presence of opportunities - all this sounds usually for an adult, he is not able from his position to appreciate, love and treat everything with deep interest, but the child inside is capable of it us.
Children do not have such superpowers, so they can look at them from the side with amazed admiration and understand their real value. It follows that it is not difficult for adults to be an adult if some part of a person remains a child, but it is impossible to be an adult in another way.
Summary
This is our opinion on the topic “How to be an adult and remain a child”. The balance between the two states is very thin - it is difficult to find, easy to lose and impossible to forget, but now you are aware of the whole theory and all that remains is to practice to learn how to create this balance.
For this, we consider the problem of growing up to be solved and we hasten to take our leave. Good luck!
At the Top of Mind Team
