I realized that most people just don't want to hear good news. They like the bad ones because they give them a reason to complain about life. Many are armed with a whole arsenal of stories with a bad ending that make us believe that evil triumphs in the world. For a while there was a radio station broadcasting only good news. So, she went broke.
When I was diagnosed with cancer, I decided to stop gossiping. To my surprise, I suddenly realized that I had nothing to say. As soon as I first met a friend, we immediately began to wash the bones of our friends. Over time, I discovered that there was another form of conversation, although it was not easy for me to break the bad habit. By the way, I will note: if I pass on gossip about other people, then they probably do the same. What goes around comes around.
As I worked with people more and more, I really started to listen to what they were saying. I began to distinguish between individual words, and not just the general outline of the conversation. Usually, after ten minutes of communication with a new client, I could already tell exactly what was the reason for his failures. And all because I listened to what words he uses.
I knew how much they contributed to the creation of new problems and the complication of old ones. If only these were mostly negative words, then you can imagine an internal dialogue. It must be a manifestation of negative programming, or, to use my term, “poverty mindset”.
I want to offer you a little exercise. Place a tape recorder next to the phone, and each time picking up the receiver, turn on the "record" button. When the cassette ends, listen to how and what you are talking about. Most likely you will be amazed. After that, you will begin to listen to your voice, follow its intonations. And, of course, keep track of the words you use.
You will begin to be conscious about it. When you find that you have repeated something three or more times, write it down. This is a reflection of some kind of your installation. Some attitudes can be positive and work for you. But there may be a couple of negative attitudes that you come back to over and over again.
In connection with what I have already said, I would like to discuss the power that our subconscious has. The subconscious mind has no opinion of its own. It accepts everything we say and creates our destiny in accordance with our beliefs. It always says yes. Our subconscious loves us so much that it gives us everything that we just ask for with the help of our statements.
However, the choice is ours. If we choose "poor", "wretched", thoughts and ideas, the subconscious mind decides that this is what we want. And until we change our words, thoughts and beliefs for the better, everything will remain the same. The subconscious mind will offer us the appropriate situations.
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We will always make this very choice, because there are billions of thoughts, and they are always in motion. Our subconscious mind cannot distinguish between truth and lies. We don't want to humiliate ourselves. We don't want to say something like "oh, how old and stupid I am." We know that the subconscious mind grasps everything on the fly. After a while, we will feel exactly old and stupid.
Say something several times - and a new idea will take root in your subconscious. The subconscious has no sense of humor. It is very important to fully understand this idea. You should not mock yourself and think that you will get away with it. If a joke humiliated you even a little - even if you tried to appear courageous and cheerful - the subconscious mind will take this humiliation seriously.
I do not allow people in my seminars to joke in this way, demeaning themselves or each other. Human dignity should never be insulted, no matter what it is about - nationality, sex, etc. Don't make fun of yourself or make derogatory remarks. It won't do anything good. Don't humiliate others either. The subconscious mind does not draw a line between you and other people.
It believes in what you say about yourself. The next time you feel like criticizing someone, ask what caused you that feeling. You see in others only what you see in yourself. Instead of criticizing people, praise them, and within a month you will experience a huge change.
Our words are an expression of our attitude to something. Notice how lonely, unhappy, poor, and sick people speak. What words do they use? What is true for them? How do they describe themselves? What do they say about their work, about their life, about their relationships with other people? What do they expect from life?
Consider their way of expressing themselves, but please don't tell anyone that their life is flowing according to the way they say it. Don't even tell your friends and family - the information won't be taken into account. Use it to start connecting with yourself. Practice constantly if you want to improve your life.
By changing the way you speak at least a little, you will attract already other life situations. Let's say you are a sick person. You believe that the disease is incurable and you are preparing for death. It seems to you that life is cruel, because everything in it works against you. What do you do in this case, guess?
You choose freedom. Freedom from your negative views of life. Start with affirmations, tell yourself that you are loved, worthy of healing, that you are drawing to yourself everything you need to physically heal. Trust that the desire to get better and be healthy is completely safe. Many people only feel completely safe when they are sick.
They usually belong to the category of people who cannot say no. " The only possibility of refusal for them comes down to the following phrase: "I am too sick (sick) to do this." This is the perfect excuse. I remember one of the participants in my seminar who underwent three operations related to oncology. She couldn't say no to anyone.
Her father was a doctor, and she was a little daddy's daughter who fulfilled all his requests and wishes. She couldn't even say no. She had to agree to all the requests that were made to her. It took four days to get a decisive no from her chest. When I achieved this, she was shocked. "Not! Not! Not!" Feeling a taste for this word, she fell in love with it.
I have found that many women with lung cancer cannot say no. They please anyone, but not themselves. I would like to recommend such women to learn to say: "No, I don't want to do this!" Two or three months of continuous "no!" to all demands and suggestions can revive a person to life. The main thing is that he learns to take care of himself with the help of words such as: “This is what I want. No, this is not what you would like."
When I gave private consultations, my clients often argued with me about their options. They all the time tried to justify their inability to cope with the accumulated problems. If we believe that we are bogged down and accept it as a fact, then this is how it happens. We are stumped as our negative attitudes become reality. So let's start focusing on our inner strength instead.
Many people tell me that my tapes saved their lives. I want you to understand that neither a book nor a cassette can save you. A small piece of film in a plastic box won't save a human life. Only how you handle the information you receive can matter to you.
I can give you a lot of ideas, but only your reaction to them counts. I suggest that you listen to a tape-recording course for a month or two, just so that my thoughts become familiar to you. I am not a healer or a savior. The only person who can make a difference in your life is yourself.
So, what else would you like to hear from me? I know I say this over and over again, but I'm not afraid to say it again: loving yourself is the most important thing you can do. Because by loving yourself, you cannot offend anyone - neither yourself nor anyone else.
I do not offend myself, I do not offend you - where then will war come from? The more people find inner peace, the better they will live on the planet. Let's begin our journey towards awareness by listening to what we say to ourselves and to others. Then we can begin to make changes that will help heal ourselves and the planet as a whole.
