There is an expression among the people "the crown of celibacy". So they talked about a woman who could not create her own family. Everything with her was in order: appearance, health, mind, character. And she wanted marriage no less than other girls - but nothing worked. Nobody went to woo; or something happened to a possible groom: a person was taken to the war or a person died from an epidemic. This happened to the "fatal" contemporary of Pushkin, Aurora Shernval. Or the groom did not dare to marry, abandoned his intention. If by the age of twenty-five a girl remained unmarried, they talked about the "crown of celibacy." If there is no husband, who will support the woman? In whose house will she live? And with what funds? Then the woman was completely dependent on her husband, unfortunately. There was only one way left - to the monastery. Or to a brother's family, where "vekovukha" became a servant for everyone.
The girl dedicated herself to God, took tonsure and a vow of celibacy; hence the colloquial expression “the crown of celibacy” came from. So they said, foreseeing the fate of an unmarried girl; "The crown of celibacy awaits her." Most "magicians" and "healers" do not even know the origin of this expression.
Life "free" for the "old maid" was terrible. She was shunned, believing that loneliness can be infected. By the way, recent research by psychologists also hints at this fact - the presence of a lonely person greatly affects the emotional state of other people. They also feel lonely. Often, the "vekovukha" was accused of witchcraft, persecuted and offended in every possible way - after all, there was no one to intercede for her … So the monastery was a salvation for a lonely girl.
Loneliness can have psychological causes. Others unconsciously read our programs and installations. Good looks and good disposition sometimes mean little; what is more important is that we broadcast "from the inside". In matters of love, it is not reason that controls a person …
"The crown of celibacy", "the program of loneliness" is more often manifested in girls from a good-looking family, prosperous. But at the same time, one of the parents was not happy in marriage; he or she endured and sacrificed himself. Out of good intentions, out of love for children, or for another reason, they sacrificed themselves to a partner. And the second reason: one of the grandparents was against the marriage of the parents. And in advance he rejected the future daughter-in-law or son-in-law; down to hatred. And I didn't want children in this marriage. But the young people got married anyway, a child was born, he had to become a grandmother or grandfather, forgetting that the child was very unwanted! But the subconscious mind forgets nothing. And then it is difficult for this child to arrange life - those around him “read” the program of dislike at the birth of such a person. How we were met in this world - so will our life and relationships with other people develop. The "unwanted" program is read by other people. And they don't like it either. They respect, appreciate, sympathize - but don't like …
There are many reasons for loneliness. But the “crown of celibacy” is dangerous because a person tries to change his behavior and blames himself for his loneliness. Sometimes he brings himself to depression, trying to change something in himself, to improve … And the reason is not that; it is more complex and deeper. Sometimes, understanding the true cause is enough to fix the situation. Or accept it. You also need to be able to take …
Anna Kiryanova
