Most of us pronounce words completely mindlessly. We let thoughts, opinions, judgments fly off the tongue, not caring what effect - positive or negative - they will produce.
Successful people, on the other hand, think carefully about their words. They know: either you are the master of your language, or he is for you. They think and speak - both about themselves and about others - quite consciously. They understand: in order to achieve greater success, it is necessary to say those words, thanks to which self-esteem and self-confidence will arise or strengthen, relationships - to build, dreams - to develop; words of approval, support, appreciation, love, recognition, opportunity and foresight.
To conduct pure speech means to speak from the heart, from the highest essence. That is, meaningfully and sincerely. In other words, your words must match exactly what you want to express - your ideas and dreams. When your speech is clear, words have an impact not only on you, but also on those around you. Leading pure speeches is to utter only those words that are true, which raise the spirit and self-consciousness of a neighbor and his value in his own eyes and the eyes of other people. Once you understand what pure speech means, you will find that the word is the basis of all relationships. The way I speak to you and about you determines the quality of our relationship.
YOUR WORDS CREATE A WAVE EFFECT IN THE WORLD
Let no rotten word come out of your mouth, but only good word for the edification of faith, so that it may bring grace to those who hear. EPHESIANS 4:29
From the lips of those who have achieved success, more often comes the word of unity than the word of disunity, the word of approval, than the word of rejection, the word of tolerance, than the word of prejudice.
If I express love and approval to you, you will have the same feelings for me. If I blame and condemn, you will answer me in kind. Expressing words of gratitude and appreciation to you, I receive them in return. And a word of hatred, most likely, will respond with hatred.
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The fact is that words carry a charge of a certain energy that causes a reaction of others, a reaction that usually returns to you multiplied many times over. If you are rude, impatient, arrogant or hostile, you can be sure it will come back to you.
All of the above affects the world around us. Everything said personally to someone affects specifically this person. Know that in your words you are constantly sending some kind of energy into the world - positive or negative.
Therefore, always ask yourself: Will what I intend to say will serve the benefit of my views, calling and goals? Will the interlocutor cheer up? Will it inspire, motivate or kickstart? Will dispel fears and create a sense of security and trust? Will it raise self-esteem, self-confidence and willingness to take risks and take action?
ENOUGH TO LIE
As with negative behavior, when you lie, you not only disconnect from yourself, but also risk that everything will open up, and you will completely lose the trust of others.
In fact, lying is the result of low self-esteem - the belief that your abilities are not enough to find what you want. It is also based on a completely erroneous opinion that you will not be able to cope with the consequences of the fact that others learn the truth about you, that is, just another way to declare: I am powerless.
When you say bad things about someone, a short-term energetic bond develops between you and that person, which leaves a lasting impression that you are constantly spreading rumors and gossip. And those around you will always be on the alert - albeit subconsciously - and in anticipation of when you turn your backbiting against them. And they will completely stop trusting you.
YOUR REVIEWS ABOUT OTHERS ARE IMPORTANT EVEN MORE THAN YOU THINK
If we look back at the history of mankind, we will see that at all times great people and spiritual teachers of the world warned us against gossip and condemnation of others. This is because they knew how destructive a lie is. By the word, wars began. Because of words, murders were committed, marriages collapsed, deeds were disrupted.
But gossip and judgment also affect you, because you pour out the poison of your backbiting into the river of energy that flows in order to bring what you want. Sometimes you don't even need words: others are already absorbing your negative energy, your criticism and censure directed at them. And if you speak out about a person behind your back, there will certainly be "well-wishers" who will report your words to him. How many times have people worried about me, with the best intentions, called and told how someone from my acquaintances spoke badly about me. How did this usually end for our relationship with that person? They gave a thin, barely noticeable crack.
I also had a chance to learn from my own experience how hard it is to gossip about something else. It (1) instantly confuses me, (2) draws my attention to what I don't want at all, distracting it from what I really need, and (3) makes me waste words. I realized that it is much more useful and enjoyable to use God-given reason and speech to create what I want, focusing the power of the word, for example, on gaining wealth.
So that, turning to another, make speeches as pure as possible:
■ Make it a habit to think first and speak later.
■ Try to find something good in everyone with whom you communicate and appreciate it.
■ With whom and under whatever circumstances you deal, always try to tell the truth. First, do this for one day, then for two in a row, then for a whole week. Lost - start over. Stick to it and gradually a habit will develop.
■ When interacting with others, try to deliberately cheer them up a little. Pay attention to what mood and feeling you will have after this.
Often we inflict pain with our words not because we are so bad, but simply because we do not think about them. Nobody explained to us the power of words.
PREJUDICE
I learned the power and power of prejudice in my first year of high school in 1968. On the first day before class, I went to the teacher's room. One of the old teachers approached and said, “I heard Devon James appeared in your American history class. This is the real nightmare of all teachers. Good luck to you!"
You can imagine how the lesson went when I walked into the classroom and saw this very Devon James. I followed his every move. He was constantly on the alert. I was just waiting for some promised trick from him. Devon didn't have the slightest chance to prove himself. It has already been "sealed". This boy had not even had time to open his mouth yet, but a certain image had already formed in my imagination. No doubt, for my part, I sent him subconscious signals like: I know you, troublemaker. This is how prejudice is born - when you judge a person from someone else's words, even before you really get to know him.
Since then, I have never allowed any teacher - or anyone else - to tell me anything about anyone in advance. I've learned to rely only on my own observations. And I realized: if I, even in advance, treat a person with respect, put great hopes on him and let him understand this with my words and behavior, he will almost certainly try to justify these hopes, trust and respect of mine.
Gossip is also very expensive for us because it robs us of our purity of soul. The pure in soul see the world in its clear and pure colors. Their minds are clearer and therefore more productive in decisions and actions. In his book The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz compares gossip to a computer virus. Just as computer "brains" infected with a virus lose the clarity of mechanical "thinking", so your soul, infected with gossip, every time, albeit a little bit, loses its purity, and your mind - clarity. But we love to gossip. So figure it out …
I want to give some practical advice on how not to be drawn into gossip and distract the interlocutor in a specific conversation:
1. Change the topic of conversation.
2. To say something good about another (object of gossip).
3. Shy away from the conversation.
4. Keep silent.
5. Make it clear that you no longer intend to gossip about anyone.
CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
How do you know if you are clean in your speech? When, speaking out, you feel joy, happiness, peace and tranquility. If you do not feel - control your thoughts, internal monologue, verbal and written communication with others. Once you have gained purity of speech, you will soon notice how your whole life has changed dramatically.