Business trainer and lecturer Natalia Grace in her book "The Laws of Grace" very accurately highlighted one thing that programs us for poverty from childhood.
And she called it "The Law of Genetic Poverty".
Everyone should read about it:
“As a child at a classmate's home, we often jumped on the couch until we saw the adults. We were very pleased with the springs, in some places very close to the surface; delighted the dust that flew in clubs from the sofa from our jumps. When, twenty years later, I went to my childhood friend, in horror I saw in the corner the same sofa on which we once jumped. It hadn't changed much, as far as I could remember, but now I was shocked by the poverty and squalor of the environment. I mentally calculated how much it might cost to buy a new sofa, replace greasy chairs, a mirror, broken and sealed with a chocolate wrapper. As we talked, in my imagination I whitewashed the ceiling and changed the wallpaper. I wanted to wash the windows, covered with flies, throw out the sticks and cardboard sticking out from under the sofa, a broken flower pot tied with a stocking. “What,if money is bad? " - I thought … But my brain resisted and offered me to buy at least an inexpensive adhesive film in the color of wood and paste over the table with it. Wherever I looked, my gaze came across some kind of breakage, dirt, stains and debris. The brain suddenly said to me: "Why do you think there is always dirt next to poverty?" Now I am asking you the same question. Even if you replace the word “always” with “almost always” or “often”, it doesn't make it any easier. Dirt is not a manifestation of lack of money, but of mentality. Think about it: dirt is a manifestation of the corresponding mentality. And since dirt and poverty are neighbors, then poverty is a kind of mentality. Yes, poverty is in an unwashed head. Wherever I looked, my gaze came across some kind of breakage, dirt, stains and debris. The brain suddenly said to me: "Why do you think there is always dirt next to poverty?" Now I am asking you the same question. Even if you replace the word “always” with “almost always” or “often”, it doesn't make it any easier. Dirt is not a manifestation of lack of money, but of mentality. Think about it: dirt is a manifestation of the corresponding mentality. And since dirt and poverty are neighbors, then poverty is a kind of mentality. Yes, poverty is in an unwashed head. Wherever I looked, my gaze came across some kind of breakage, dirt, stains and debris. The brain suddenly said to me: "Why do you think there is always dirt next to poverty?" Now I am asking you the same question. Even if you replace the word “always” with “almost always” or “often”, it doesn't make it any easier. Dirt is not a manifestation of lack of money, but of mentality. Think about it: dirt is a manifestation of the corresponding mentality. And since dirt and poverty are neighbors, then poverty is a kind of mentality. Yes, poverty is in an unwashed head. Dirt is not a manifestation of lack of money, but of mentality. Think about it: dirt is a manifestation of the corresponding mentality. And since dirt and poverty are neighbors, then poverty is a kind of mentality. Yes, poverty is in an unwashed head. Dirt is not a manifestation of lack of money, but of mentality. Think about it: dirt is a manifestation of the corresponding mentality. And since dirt and poverty are neighbors, then poverty is a kind of mentality. Yes, poverty is in an unwashed head.
At school I had an amazing teacher of literature - Tamara Grigorievna, an outstanding mind, a very perceptive woman. She somehow dropped a phrase that I have remembered for the rest of my life. Someone asked her what philistinism meant, and she replied: "Philistinism means drinking from an old shabby mug when there is a new one in the sideboard." So it is customary in many Russian houses: for a rainy day, money is set aside, for a white day there is a new cup in the sideboard, only a white day rarely comes, and all life is filled with black. Those who live in anticipation of the future never come. And then I realized this: it's a shame to be a beggar; ashamed to be dirty. It is a shame to have devastation in my head, which inevitably affects both the home and the mentality of children.
I know a woman who has been saving money for over twenty years to buy a dacha. She raised two daughters alone. The girls lived from hand to mouth, on only porridge, and the eldest of them told me how ashamed she was to go out into the yard in old corduroy trousers with patched knees. The girl grew, and every year her trousers magically grew. The fabric tucked underneath was unfolded centimeter by centimeter. She was not as faded as the rest of the leg, and this betrayed beggarly tricks. Apparently, this is where the expression came from: "The need for invention is cunning." It is not worth telling that the system in the state does not allow earning enough. I'm not scolding the system, but rot in the brain. For the same money, you can look dignified or beggarly. When the mother finally bought the dacha, both grown-up daughters did not have the slightest interest in this dacha,but the mother was endlessly reproached for not teaching them what it meant to be a woman. The girls have a Cinderella complex. They, accustomed to seeing worn chairs and old dishes, shabby towels and coats seven years ago, later, becoming adults, were afraid to spend money on themselves. Every time they bought something, their mood was spoiled: they seemed to feel unworthy of new good things. This, my friends, is called in two words: genetic poverty. She is already conscious, in cells, in blood, in bones.their mood was spoiled: they seemed to feel unworthy of new good things. This, my friends, is called in two words: genetic poverty. She is already conscious, in cells, in blood, in bones.their mood was spoiled: they seemed to feel unworthy of new good things. This, my friends, is called in two words: genetic poverty. She is already conscious, in cells, in blood, in bones.
Children who see shabby corners are subconsciously programmed for poverty. Already in adolescence, they begin to realize its severity. Anton Pavlovich Chekhov also noted that peeling walls and dirty corridors have a bad effect on a student's ability to learn. Dirt and poverty suppress a person, the usual kind of wretched environment programs to be a failure. You could argue to me that the hatred of poverty stimulates some people to develop and earn money, but I will answer you that many more people break down under the unbearable burden of poverty. The words "trouble" and "poverty" have the same root. Drive the trouble away from you. Drive poverty away. How I like the phrase: "Wealth is a state of mind." So, poverty is also a state of mind."