Body language can tell a lot more about us than we are used to thinking. In most cases, we make certain gestures involuntarily, on a subconscious level. This means one thing - having learned to "read the gestures" of our interlocutors, we will not allow ourselves to be deceived.
Get me interested if you can
There is an unspoken rule - if you want to achieve something from a person, then show interest in his person. And if replicas and even facial expressions can be feigned, then gestures will not allow you to circle your finger.
Sincere interest is accompanied by a complete absence of any gestures. The interlocutor is so interested in what you say or do that he tries to sit still, so as not to make unnecessary noise and not be distracted. In an interested person, the eyes widen slightly, the eyebrows are raised, and the body of the body involuntarily leans forward - so much you want to get closer to the object of your attention.
But the overabundance of gestures suggests otherwise. The interlocutor is not at all interested with you if his hands spend most of the time at head level. Is he rubbing his temples, scratching his head, resting his forehead on his hand? This is proof that he absolutely does not care what you are trying to tell him about. The critical stage, signaling the early end of the conversation, is pressing one or both hands to the ears. On a subconscious level, a person wants to hide from the flow of information that pours out on him.
You can be calm when you see your opponent rubbing his hands. What you said interested him, and he was completely at the mercy of pleasant thoughts.
Businessmen love to rub their hands after concluding a successful deal, and in general, absolutely everyone is in anticipation of something pleasant or after some kind of success in life (be it the prospect of a delicious lunch or the absence of traffic jams on the way to work).
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Do you respect me?
The easiest way for a man to show his respect to an opponent of the same sex is to shake his hand. For a welcoming handshake, a person who respects you will be the first to reach out. People who respect each other will not immediately try to free their hands, so the handshake can drag on for a few seconds.
The angle between the hands also matters. When it comes to mutual respect, then men will keep their hands straight. You should be wary of a handshake, in which your hand is covered for greater persuasiveness with the left. This gesture is called the "politicians' handshake." Such people usually prefer words to replace deeds or actions. When shaking hands, one can also define a dismissive, or even contemptuous, attitude. In such cases, your palm will not be wrapped around, being content with only your fingers. At best, with such a handshake, you are simply indifferent to the interlocutor.
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It is not even worth talking about any respect if the person who is vis-a-vis has arms crossed over his chest, and his thumbs are raised up. The latter testifies that you are not only not respected, but they also feel superiority and arrogance. Hands folded in a house or brought together behind the head also speak of superiority.
Believe me
If the truth of your words is doubted, they will avoid direct eye contact. But gestures are much more vivid about distrust of your person.
It will be extremely difficult to convince your interlocutor and win over yourself if his hands are already reaching out to his mouth. Distrust or even a sense of danger is evidenced by the so-called "closed poses": crossed arms or legs. But here it is still possible to correct the situation. Just change your tone of voice or even the topic - switch for a while to what is pleasant to the interlocutor. Did you feel the change? You can go back to the original topic of conversation.
Look at the brushes when talking. The palms are directed downward, and the body, as it were, moves up a little - your opponent does not really trust you. Deep down, he believes that there is danger from you, or that something unpleasant, some kind of trick should be expected in the future.
But indifference is expressed with his hands behind his back. The length of this pose can also tell a lot. For example, hands behind his back were only for a short period of time - a person is in some confusion, he does not yet know how to treat you: to believe everything said or not. But this posture, maintained for a long time, is observed in people who are restrained, passive and inclined to contemplation.
Magazine: Daria Horoscope №10 (132)
