A Real Man is Morality, Honor, Wisdom, Spirituality, Integrity, Modesty, Responsibility, Valor, Nobility, Creativity, Service and, of course, Love.
Basically, that's all. For those who want more details - comments for better understanding.
Let me explain - I am writing only about what I lived and what I learned myself. This is not a theory from books - everything is felt and accepted.
1. MORALITY
This point is one of the most important for a man. And completely absent from most of us. Oddly enough - but this is chastity.
A real man is born when he becomes completely independent of sex and women. When he has the power to deny sex to all girls (even those who are ready and willing themselves). To refuse is for one. The one that already exists in his life. Or the one that does not yet exist, but it is destined for him by fate.
Moral purity is not a whim or a complex, as is commonly thought now. This is a HUGE power of a Man. Such a man will not be divorced for sex and not a single beauty or bitch will turn away from life's path.
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What's interesting is that morality is contagious. It applies to all other spheres and relationships - in the family, with people and in life in general.
Girls, tell me honestly - will you like SUCH a man? Or would you prefer a "macho" who wants to f … t everything that moves? Which beauty will spread on the bed? If you chose the latter - I just have to … wish you good luck and puberty.
Unfortunately for many girls, the Moral man does not have one ability that is being praised now - he cannot Fall in love. Absolutely. He will not "conquer" you, sing serenades under the window and stuff like that. Yes, just not why and not necessary. Lovers use each other to escape pain.
But when he falls in love … fasten your seat belts - this is forever. Will fly you to Mars to look for if you get there. No map, food, water or anything else. Not because he is in love or romantic. But because he chose you. Loves you. And life will give for you. In this case, it will be calm like water at the bottom of the ocean. And he will find it.
A man is born when he becomes free from his lust.
2. HONOR AND NOBILITY
Honor, honesty - you don't know what it is?
A real man respects all people around him. And communicates with them respectfully. Respects the world around - and treats it with respect. Honor is helping a friend, people - whatever the cost. Honor is a state of mind.
Honesty. Total honesty. There is no Man without her.
As the character of the Soviet cinema said - “It's very hard for them to walk. Because I told them where they were going. It would be much easier for them to remain in the dark. But those who follow me must know the truth. If they know the truth and follow me, then they will follow to the end. And if they follow me without the truth, how can they trust me?"
Total honesty. Even to the detriment of yourself and your well-being. However, this does not mean to say everything that is on your mind. A man sees when and how it can be said to others - so that they understand and hear. In doing so with respect and keeping their honor.
Whatever your personal losses, a man will choose honesty. He won't lie to get a job / money / sex, etc. Guys - to use a woman only for sex, without the intention of spending her whole life with her - is immoral and unfair. And in this there is no Man at all.
And which of our brothers so far chooses a lie - well, caterpillars, I wish you to become butterflies. Then there will be a chance to be men.
By the way, did you know that a real man will never make a single (!) Claim to a woman? None. Never. With no exceptions.
Is it taking a long time? You are welcome. Her right. We can act as we want - wait or go by ourselves (depending on what is in your values and where you are going) - but just do not make claims.
For women, only one option is true - also without pretensions, we sit, wait until he puts together the closet or re-glues the wallpaper throughout the apartment. There is no option - to go by yourself.
3. WISDOM
Everything that a real man does - all his motives - he can explain. He sees people and processes in their depths, and not on the surface. He is driven by a complete understanding of all sides of something. That is why - he chooses Morality and Honor. He will sort out each question for you - why so and so. IF - you are ready to hear it. No - then he may look like a tyrant to you. He said - do it.
It is wisdom that connects all the other points like glue. Watch the movie Legend 17 - a perfect example of all these qualities. Menshikov in the role of a coach - he does not explain his actions to the athletes - they still will not understand, they are not ready to understand yet. Therefore, he “scoffs” and demands submission. But his every demand and action contains incredible wisdom. And the hockey players understood. And they became the best team in the World.
And here is sadness number 2 for some women.
A man with a sense of Honor, Morality and Wisdom WILL NOT protect you always and in everything, even when you are clearly wrong. Surprise, huh?
A real man doesn't care who is right. It is important for him to ACT in accordance with truth and honor, to act on the basis of the highest values, and not to have these values and not to defend the pride of another person.
If you are right, he calmly admits it, but he will also preserve the honor of the other side. Also, if you are wrong, it will preserve the honor of both parties, and will talk to you frankly already alone. And you will have to listen to him and do as he says.
Why can't he protect you? He sees the situation through the eyes of God. You do not scold God for illness or misfortune? And then it turns out that you really needed this situation and you learned a lot from it. It was unpleasant, but only thanks to your own egoism - and the benefit outweighs many times over.
4. SPIRITUALITY
Spirituality, spirituality …
Man is the hands of God on earth. The direct conductor of His will. For this, in the heart of a man there is an understanding of ALL spiritual laws, rules and principles by which our world lives. For this, there is peace in the soul of a man. A woman is a helper and inspirer, do not confuse.
A man does in the outside world.
Woman - inspires and takes care of the home.
Concepts such as kindness, compassion, honesty again, love, God, mercy, unity are the basis of any person's spirituality. However, a man is the one who guides and leads spiritually his family and all the people around him. Helps us to be closer to God.
And I'm not talking about religion. And about the feeling of the creator of all that is - in the very heart. There is no spirituality without honesty, wisdom and morality. It does not need to be dealt with, it does not need to be developed - you need to be it and live in harmony with it.
5. INTEGRITY
My favorite item lately.
Integrity - a deep understanding of your principles, values, your nature - and most importantly - total FOLLOWING THEM.
No matter what happens, I have my principles and values, which I will adhere to in all situations and conditions. And they are based, among other things, on points 1-4) Honor, Nobility, Morality and others.
Principles and values are the compass of a Man. Thanks to them, he always knows where and how to go. And that is what he will stick to.
Here are the principles of male brotherhood. I gave my word to another man - keep it. I asked for help, borrowed - give it back, return it. At any cost, even at a loss. NO reminders. You have put your honor, your courage on the line. I am ashamed of two individuals, whose honor price is 200 rubles (!) And 9000. Cheap, which is like walking to the moon to be called the glorious name of Man (not that Man). And there are many of them. And save you from borrowing from the Girl! To borrow from a girl is a shame for a man. And you can't give it to the girl …
There is such a dish in Asia - Chuka. A shapeless gray porridge, tasteless and odorless, made from just about anything. These people are Chuka. So girls, forgive them. They are having such a hard time.
Sadness number 3 for women
For a real Man, his values are even more important than your relationship. If you start to act contrary to spiritual principles, contrary to morality, honor and wisdom, he will choose them, not you.
Does this offend you?
Perfectly.
Do you want to get away from him?
Okay, put your keys on the table where you know the door.
No matter how he loves you - a Real Man will always calmly react to the departure of his beloved woman. And if you hear something like the words from him: “You can leave. But know - I won't let you back. " or if (God forbid you) to expel him - "If I now go out this door - then forever, I will not come again" - I advise you to sit down and catch your breath on your own. Nobody will calm you down. If a Real Man said it, he will do it. Why make pretentious speeches? Yes, he himself will be hurt and want to return - but he made a decision, said it - and that's it. And the decision is based on his values and wisdom.
What happens when a man chooses NOT his wholeness? Lie, but get a gingerbread. Apologize, try to make amends for your guilt, which is not, in order to appease your half. Defend the knowingly wrong, not the principles of justice. Give up some principle in order to have something.
It happens - pdffff … Explosion and destruction of his very Masculine essence. The foundations of his nature. Very fast and downhill. Becomes a woman in general.
If his integrity could not be broken, if he remained with his, silently carrying his burden, no matter what they try to do with him, this is the Great Man.
Wholeness is living in accordance with your deepest principles and values. No matter what.
6. MODESTY
There is nothing to add. Modesty.
They ponte, dress beautifully, buy cool cars and crave all the best - "guys-women".
The life of a real man is simple and modest. Why? Because their life is full of creativity and service. They see much beyond matter and trickery.
The Slavic princes believed - "If they don't recognize you as a prince in a woolen dress, then really, what kind of prince are you?"
The strength of a man comes from within. From simplicity and modesty.
Those who do not have it - splurge on expensive watches, shoes, clothes or cars. Remember the joke - what compensates for a man's powerful car?
7. LIABILITY
excellent. one hundred%. For everything and for everyone.
A real Man is the father of the whole World. Not only to your children - to all people. And he cares about ALL people around him. And about nature. And about animals. About everything around him.
He takes responsibility and blazes a new path. It can be scary - but he does it. Solves any issue.
8. CREATIVITY AND MINISTRY
The real Man is the Creator. And that explains his modesty. It is important for us to create something new, to improve the old. Pave new paths and explore new horizons.
And we do all this not only for our own pleasure - but for the sake of serving the world and people.
The ability to serve is what distinguishes a true man from everyone else. You can sweep the floor or run a corporation, it doesn't matter. It is important that our activities make the world a better place. Really better.
Serving family, relatives, friends, colleagues, country.
9. LOVE
Real, and not the fake that most people enjoy now. True Love cannot be for 1 woman. This is selfishness.
Either we love EVERYTHING - or nothing. And then, loving everything - we can give it to a woman in full, but also take care of all other people and nature. As parts of one God.
It is Love that is the source and motive of all actions of a real Man. Morality, Honor, Nobility, Wisdom - all these are its manifestations.
Every action and word of a man goes through only one question - is there Love in this? Will this increase the Love in the world?
Just do not deceive yourself and try to look handsome. Too many men think about themselves what kind of men they are - but in reality they wear a mask - under which there is neither honor, nor nobility, nor wisdom and love. First, let's learn to be honest with ourselves.
A real Man is a combination of all these qualities TOGETHER. In fact, it's all very simple. It is enough to come to this state - and here he is - a man was born. Then everything happens automatically - because there is simply no other way.
Author: Alexey Yakovlev