Thank God there are no duties on lies! After all, where would such ruin to all of us! - D. Fonvizin.
Liars, according to psychologists, are different and they practice different types of lies.
SO DIFFERENT LIES
Lying can perform a protective function when a fearful person tries to prevent the troubles associated with a bitter truth, and, accordingly, to avoid punishment. Children often use this lie. Here's an example for you: a child who received a grade at school hid this fact from his parents, and even lied to them from three boxes that all the teachers praised him in class today.
Often, lies have a compensatory function. The liar tries to disguise self-doubt and feelings of inferiority with stories about his heroic victories and exploits; lack of money, poverty - stories and wealth and influential patrons, etc. Teenagers often use lies for self-affirmation, sometimes without neglecting self-incrimination, telling about their involvement in gangs of thieves, bandits, etc. For the same purpose, children compose stories about the fantastic strength and limitless possibilities of their parents or older brothers.
A lie without profit, more like a fantasy, is not dangerous at all. It is based not so much on the desire to mislead others, but on the inability to separate reality from the world of one's own ideas and dreams. This is normal for children. They often pass off as real their own or other people's inventions, because the kids have not yet fully formed self-consciousness, they live for the time being in the magical world. If we are talking about an adult, it’s worth thinking about it. When fantasies are persistent and not amenable to dissuasion, one can speak of pseudology - and this is already a disease.
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CHILDREN OF OSTAP BENDER
Liars can be divided into episodic, forced by circumstances, and inspirational, reveling in their creativity, getting used to invented images. While the former stop lying as soon as the traumatic situation disappears, the latter, as a rule, lie throughout their lives. Often they themselves suffer from their inclinations, they realize its perniciousness, but they cannot stop, they are carried, like Ostap Bender. It should be noted that keen liars are artistic, they desperately strive for love and recognition from others. Such a myth-maker is easy to recognize in any company - an excellent storyteller, subtly feeling the mood of the interlocutor, his eyes shine, his manners are somewhat demonstrative, and he is often dressed tastefully. Passion for lies, by the way, was noted in themselves (especially in their youth) by many people who subsequently achieved success in the literary field. To catch such a storyteller in a lie is to inflict a mental wound on him, because he himself has already believed himself.
Such people tend to go into a disease from difficulties, sometimes real, but somehow incomprehensible, with constantly changing symptoms. They talk about their feelings with rapture, using phrases such as "unbearable pain", "suffocating melancholy", "immense fatigue." And do not think that they are deceiving, not at all: inspired liars are very sensitive and quivering natures, they are not simulators, but genuine sufferers.
But along with the mass of shortcomings, mythomaniacs have one significant advantage: due to their infantilism, they periodically turn the life of loved ones into a fairy tale - they compose something, I invent something. In short, you will not get bored with them.
WHAT TO DO?
A legitimate question arises, what should the family and friends of the liar do? After all, this artistic nature is able to bring anyone to white heat. Unfortunately, upbringing bears poor fruit: liars either gradually overcome their weakness with age, or remain in its captivity forever.
With the poor, going into the fantasy world too far and for a long time, it is better to deal with a psychiatrist. It's easier with liars "by weakness" and "by circumstances". Don't ask the hare to become a lion. But still think - do you pay enough attention to a loved one, a child? Maybe he so wants to be liked, to draw attention to himself, so longs for love that he does not even shun deception in search of your interested glance. Help the liar, learn to love him for who he is.
WOMEN LIE BETTER
It turns out that men lie more often than women and get from it
pleasure, but women know how to do it better and more artistic. In addition, research has shown that 87% of people lie one to three times within 30 minutes.
Natalia KUVSHINOVA
HOW TRUST YOU
Take the test and find out if you are easily fooled.
1. The child tells you that he has lost the diary. Your reaction …
A. Take pity, cheer and buy a new one.
B. Suspect something was wrong and offer to look for the loss better.
B. Call your homeroom teacher immediately.
2. Horoscope you …
A. You read with pleasure and listen to all the advice.
B. Look into it from time to time to have fun.
B. Skip this section.
3. A friend asks you for a loan, what will you do?
A. If you have money, why not help the person.
B. Ask why she needs the money and for how long.
Q. You have a principle: do not borrow or lend, and you do not retreat from it.
4. You go to the market because
A. There is always fresh food.
B. You like to haggle.
Q. You enjoy weighing your purchases on a check scale.
5. You are used to believing from the first word …
A. To all people.
B. To your inner voice or doctor.
V. Only close, and even then not always.
6. What proverb are you most often guided by?
A. "There is a silver lining."
B. "Trust in God, but do not make a mistake yourself."
C. "Measure seven times, cut once"
RESULTS:
More Answers A
You, as a child, see only good around you and trust everyone without exception. This does not mean that we are urging you to become suspicious and cynical. Just be more attentive and careful.
More Answers B
It is possible to deceive you, but it is not as easy as it might seem on
first glance. You are inquisitive and adore new acquaintances, listen with interest to everything they tell you, but then you can subject what you hear to a harsh critical analysis. And you are doing the right thing!
More Answers V
It is almost impossible to influence your views and confuse you.
The firmness of your opinion and conviction can be envied by many. Only now, the inflexibility, the feeling of one's righteousness and suspicion carry, in addition to pluses, a certain number of minuses. By questioning everything around you, you often miss something that is truly necessary and valuable to you.