Ordinary "neurotic" people do not differ from people "perverted" (or perverts) as much as it seems at first glance. The main difference is only that the "partially healthy" or "healthier" of us more often do not realize their erotic fantasies and thoughts in actions and in external reality, but keep them inside themselves at the psychic level.
For example, a neurotic man fantasizes about having sex with his mother, this unbearable fantasy is forgotten as unacceptable for his psychic reality, and then returns in the form of various failures or symptoms of life, if you call them psychological language. At that time, the pervert - a pervert in fact, sleeps with his mother in the same bed, and once, when they find themselves in an altered state due to alcohol or drugs, they actually physically enter into an intimate relationship.
Oedipus complex.
We are talking about a common phenomenon when most people generate psychic formations in "waking dreams", with the help of which they stage in their inner representation the sexual satisfaction of their most varied and daring erotic desires. The methods of achieving orgasm depend on the degree of maturity of a person, that is, more perverse people can use only one narrow range of specific methods for sexual satisfaction with the use of strange various objects, sadomasochistic games, violence, etc.
Sadomasochism is a common deviation.
The differences in the drawings of the fantasies of different people depend on the degree of their pathology. The more diverse and heterogeneous the fantasies with the help of which a person realizes his sexual desire, the more flexible and stronger the human psyche, and, on the contrary, concrete and poor fantasies based on one chosen method of satisfaction indicate some difficulties in mental life. Analysis of fantasies "waking dreams" and erotic representations helps to identify important connections in the emergence of mental, painful states.
Dreams and daydreams with sexual connotations
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For a better understanding, let's clarify some of the issues related to "waking dreams."
First, it should be noted that the assertion that any fantasy is primarily an erotic goal is justified. The so-called "waking dreams" in girls are most often revealed as dreams of a lover, while men, at first glance, have a false impression that their dreams are associated with ambition and achievements. And yet, men achieve success and perform heroic deeds only in order to please a woman and be preferable to her rivals.
Secondly, fantasies, or "waking dreams," serve the fulfillment of desire. Most often, the dreamer languishes for a long time from the impossibility of realizing his aspiration, and the psyche helps him cope with this with the help of mental formations inside. For example, a man dreams for a long time about how he will spend the night with his girlfriend, and instead of building deep and trusting relationships with her, he dreams in reality of how he saves her from bandits, for which the girl is immensely grateful to him and is ready to give all of herself.
Outward signs - how to recognize the "erotic dreamer"
Fantasizing people who are busy with "waking dreams" can be easily found in their surroundings or on the street. They can even be identified by external signs. During "waking sleep" a person looks in a specific way, you can notice an unexpected, as if absent smile, conversation with oneself and an accelerated gait resembling a run. A kind of absent and out of this world eccentric, which in fact is very often found among the most ordinary people around us.
Erotic fantasies.
"Waking dreams" may not be realized by a person, but give him some very tangible pleasure, high spirits and causeless joy.
Such a state can distract a person from difficult life circumstances and lead away from some difficult reflections. This is how a professional psychologist-sexologist describes this situation:
It is interesting! In ancient times, it was believed that dreams with erotic connotations are caused by the fact that a person enters into a sexual relationship with an incubus or succubus.
However, this does not always happen, and each specific case requires its own research and analysis by a professional psychoanalyst or psychotherapist.
Unconscious fantasies are in a very close relationship with a person's sexual life, moreover, they are identical to the fantasies that served a person to achieve sexual satisfaction.
The emergence of erotic fantasies
So, let's consider the stages of the formation of "waking dreams".
1. Initially, a person is engaged in an autoerotic action, that is, sexual arousal of himself, and enjoys touching certain parts of his own body (erogenous zones).
2. Later, autoerotic action or physical self-gratification merges with a completely conscious fantasy, the desire for love with an imaginary object, and then the erotic action itself is part of the realization of this fantasy.
3. If a person refuses by virtue of some educational, moral or other considerations from self-satisfaction, then the autoerotic action does not occur, and the fantasy that accompanies him remains and passes from the state of consciousness to the unconscious.
4. If a person does not find the possibility of sexual satisfaction of his libido, for example, sublimation or other means, then the unconscious fantasy comes to life, grows and, combining with other fantasies, can create or form a painful mental situation, or, in psychoanalytic terms, a symptom of the disease.
Conclusion: "waking dreams" indicate the existence of prerequisites for the development of the disease.
In pairs - in a world of sexual contradictions
In addition to the fact that waking dreams can grow and gradually take more and more time in the functioning of the psyche, each fantasy also chooses other fantasies for itself, uniting with them and forming symptoms or a pattern of a painful state. Interestingly, a pair of fantasies is formed according to the principle of human bisexuality and contradiction.
Every person in the inner world has both a love desire for the opposite sex and a desire for representatives of the same sex, this phenomenon does not cause difficulties if one of the aspirations still prevails. In other words, if a woman's desire for a male lover is stronger than her desire for women, then the former wins in the psyche and does not cause contradictions.
In ancient times, the hermaphrodite was considered a perfect person.
But if a struggle or conflict is observed between two aspirations, then the psyche tries to cope with contradictions by fighting one of them. Then, at the conscious level, only one striving remains obvious and understandable, while both currents exist in the unconscious layers, but one of them turns out to be in a distorted form and tries to break through in order to get relaxation for itself.
"Daydreams" are unconscious manifestations of the psyche, therefore bisexual desires and fantasies can find opportunities for themselves to inhabit them. If we analyze painful "waking dreams", then along with erotic fantasies, one can find conflicts between them and bisexual desires of a person. In general, access to "waking dreams" reveals to us the most intimate assets of the individual.
