When I led a riotous lifestyle, drank alcoholic beverages, then I had many friends. You will have a drink with one, you will have a heart-to-heart talk, with another, with a third. Are these real friends? We always found a common language in the company, alcohol brings people together. But then I gave up drinking, and, consequently, I stopped being present at drunkenness, participating in intimate drunken conversations. And in general, I began to see my friends less often, and if we meet, then there is nothing to talk about, before we somehow found topics, but now they are not. From this huge list of friends, only a few remained with whom I had a great time and sober. Perhaps the problem is in alcohol, or rather, in its use? And they weren't real friends, but just drinking companions? Yes exactly.
True friends are people with whom not only there are common topics for conversation and common interests, but with whom you can always and everywhere, under any circumstances, talk as with yourself, entrust something that you could only entrust to yourself. With friends there is some kind of internal connection, sometimes even the saying "Fools' thoughts converge" is appropriate. Friends have some kind of metaphysical disposition based on certain character traits. Friends are able to understand each other perfectly.
If a person has at least one true friend, then this person knows what love is, and if a person has never had friends, then he will not be able to claim that he once loved. Not everyone is given to know love and have friends. When a person makes such sacrifices - he opens his soul to some person and trusts him completely and completely - then he loves. To have friends, you need to be able to love.
Friendship based on drinking is not friendship, it's just a pastime. Such friendships are broken, and yesterday's friends cease to be. In order for two people to become friends, you need some kind of sober, serious basis, built not on fun, parties, etc., but on a calm, balanced understanding of a certain topic. Moreover, both people should understand it in the same way.
Author: Oleg Prikhodko