Kings healed by touch. This is a special mercy that the anointed of God can show a sick subject. On a special day, the king laid his hand on the sufferers awaiting healing - and the serious illness receded. This is not a fairy tale or a beautiful legend. This is a fact, albeit paradoxical. For example, documentary evidence has been preserved that the English king Edward I healed almost a thousand subjects from scrofula with a touch. And scrofula was called one of the forms of tuberculosis, by the way.
EFFECT OF ESTERBANI
Healers also heal by touch. In the sixties of the last century, scientists conducted experiments with the participation of the Hungarian healer Esterbani. The mouse was inflicted with skin damage, a wound; and then the healer held the animal in his hands and stroked it. Those mice who were “lucky” to get into the good hands of Esterbani had their wounds healed much faster than those of the unfortunate counterparts from the control group. The healer could not explain his ability; he was just a healer. And scientists also did not find a scientific explanation, at least a complete one; just recorded the results of the experiments and published a scientific work. The touch promotes wound healing; but it is precisely the touch of a special person who has “good energy”, “positive field”, “positive charge”. There is still no scientific term for such people. Fromm suggested the word "biophiles". The biophile is the onewho loves life and everything connected with it. Who is humane and optimistic by nature. Who is able to love and support others, instilling in them the confidence of healing; but you can't instill anything in mice, can you? They can simply be held in a warm palm and stroked.
GROW A PERSON
The "hospitalism syndrome" is associated with the influence of touch. This is a broad concept, but this syndrome was discovered and described in the post-war years, when there were many babies left without parents. Little orphans were housed in orphanages and hospitals, and were cared for by medical staff. The children were fed, their diapers were changed, and medicines were given if needed. Under sterile conditions, with medical care and good nutrition, babies died of unknown reasons. They died out and died one by one. The mortality rate was so high that doctors did not know how to help the children. But they drew attention to an amazing fact: in one ward, the mortality rate was significantly lower than in the others. They began to question the staff; it turned out that the nurse was taking the babies in her arms. Although this was considered undesirable. She took it in her arms, stroked it, rocked it - that is, did whatwhich is what you should do with babies. And they developed normally, were less likely to get sick and did not die! This fact made doctors and psychologists think about the importance of touch, body contact, which can be life-saving. Even vital!
In tribes of people who have preserved a primitive way of life, the importance of touch is especially pronounced. In those tribes where the goal was to raise an aggressive cannibal, mothers carried the child in a wicker basket on their back. Without any bedding. And the basket was closed with a lid, so that the baby was completely deprived of contact with the outside world and did not see the mother's face. So he sat in a basket, from where he was taken out only for feeding, and then they put him back in the basket and slammed the lid … And in tribes where there was humanism and justice, where there was no cannibalism, the mother carried the child on her breast, without any basket. She hugged him and hugged him. The child received all the "proper touch" in full. And he grew up as a man, not a cannibal. Moreover, other studies of some African tribes have shownthat in some groups and tribes people had no idea about depression and neuroses in their modern form. They were all right with their psyche and peace of mind. How did people manage to maintain their mental and psychological health in the most difficult living conditions? It's very simple - the mother from birth to three years almost did not let the child out of her arms; as a last resort, worn on the back. Physical and emotional contact with the mother in the first years of life reliably protected the psyche throughout life. Thus, the importance of touch and body contact between mother and child was proven. And in general - a benevolent body contact …How did people manage to maintain their mental and psychological health in the most difficult living conditions? It's very simple - the mother from birth to three years almost did not let the child out of her arms; as a last resort, worn on the back. Physical and emotional contact with the mother in the first years of life reliably protected the psyche throughout life. Thus, the importance of touch and body contact between mother and child was proven. And in general - a benevolent body contact …How did people manage to maintain their mental and psychological health in the most difficult living conditions? It's very simple - the mother from birth to three years almost did not let the child out of her arms; as a last resort, worn on the back. Physical and emotional contact with the mother in the first years of life reliably protected the psyche throughout life. Thus, the importance of touch and body contact between mother and child was proven. And in general - a benevolent body contact …
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RISKY METHOD
The psychologist Ferencci concluded that all of his patients with severe neuroses and mental disorders were ill from a lack of love. In childhood, they were hardly touched, not stroked, hugged or kissed; they all grew up with emotionally cold parents, in families where expressions of love were not welcomed. And Ferenczi began to hug his patients, kiss them, shake hands with them, greeting or trying to support in a difficult period. Now Ferenczi would go straight to jail and ruin his professional reputation forever. Even in those days (in the first quarter of the 20th century), his method caused a lot of criticism and criticism; how is it, it's unprofessional to touch patients! Hug them! But the patients recovered and thanked the doctor. They were deprived of love, deprived of good touch, and from this they got sick. And the doctor touched them without any sexual overtones; in this way he expressed the love and affection that these women experienced throughout their lives. Doubtful method! Very doubtful! But effective. And Psychologist Yalom writes with his book about how he passed psychotherapeutic sessions with a woman psychologist. The sessions were very difficult and difficult; the woman was cold. Surova. Silent. She showed no emotion. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better.deficiency of which these women experienced throughout their lives. Doubtful method! Very doubtful! But effective. And Psychologist Yalom writes with his book about how he passed psychotherapeutic sessions with a woman psychologist. The sessions were very difficult and difficult; the woman was cold. Surova. Silent. She showed no emotion. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better.deficiency of which these women experienced throughout their lives. Doubtful method! Very doubtful! But effective. And Psychologist Yalom writes with his book about how he passed psychotherapeutic sessions with a woman psychologist. The sessions were very difficult and difficult; the woman was cold. Surova. Silent. She showed no emotion. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better. And Psychologist Yalom writes with his book about how he passed psychotherapeutic sessions with a woman psychologist. The sessions were very difficult and difficult; the woman was cold. Surova. Silent. She showed no emotion. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better. And Psychologist Yalom writes with his book about how he passed psychotherapeutic sessions with a woman psychologist. The sessions were very difficult and difficult; the woman was cold. Surova. Silent. She showed no emotion. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better. But Yalom needed to pass these sessions for professional education, they were included in the training program. And once he talked, overcoming himself, about his childhood and relationships with parents, very difficult. A cold lady psychologist suddenly touched his hand and said: "I can imagine how difficult it was for you!" After this contact, Yalom was greatly relieved. He immediately felt better.
KIND WORD
Touch, however, can be both "giving energy" and "taking". When touched, there is a connection between people; from the point of view of physics, it resembles a property of systems. When interacting, one system acquires the properties of another! Therefore, the touch of a successful, strong, healthy, empowered person can be healing, and the touch of a negative, evil person can cause a breakdown and even illness. In Stephen King's novel Slimming, the protagonist enters a streak of misfortune after being touched by an old gypsy.
Touch creates a connection, whether we like it or not. And yet, the touch of strangers who drag us into contact and want to get something from us must be treated with reasonable caution. Violation of personal boundaries usually does not lead to anything good. So touch is twofold: it can bring happiness, health, relief of pain and suffering, and it can serve as tools for manipulation and destructive influences …
So what can be done? Should I avoid touching or hugging everyone, kissing, shaking hands, sincerely wishing well? After all, this is useful, and we act with good intentions - do we want to make a person healthy and happy? It is very important to respect personal boundaries and not touch the person unless he asks for it or initiates contact himself. You need to hug and kiss your loved ones, and try to do it more often. And with patients and unfamiliar people, you must behave in accordance with etiquette. And let me remind you an excellent thing: a person has a second signaling system, in which the word plays the main role. You can touch another person with a word. Kind, of course. Which, as you know, is pleasant not only to a person, but also to a cat.
Psychologist Anna Kiryanova