Teach yourself not to be an excellent student, not to be the first, not to be a winner. Give yourself a break to be yourself. Give your child a break - to be. Make mistakes, serve not requirements and norms, but inspirations and talents. Teach children this too - the freedom to be nothing but yourself. Excellent student - role. It is not difficult to play it, you should always be the way teachers, bosses and commanders want to see you.
The right guys will lose to those who are happier, which means they are more energetic and livelier. Life does not teach rules, it teaches that time flies, the stone lies, and you change. The child is the generator of the future and you are his first step, his battery, his assemblage point, do not screw him heavy parts from unnecessary and contrived obligations.
I have been teaching with students for fifteen years, this is not a lot, but I see children in mature and adult people, I see their parents and I see that teaching design is a good marker of inner freedom. Design is the ability to think possible. It's not enough to be an excellent student, here you have to be a dummy, a bully and fail tests in order to find something new. I see adults, even individual teachers, who were taught to be correct in childhood, were not allowed to move furniture in the room as it was convenient, to “eat porridge”.
Children do not need to learn freedom, this is their natural way of thinking.
- Allow the child and help to move all the furniture in his room as he wants and in the future he will change the world, become part of the great movement of ideas and rules.
- Show that you are wrong too, that you do not know how much, but you correct and study all your time, for pleasure.
- Take the child by the hand and take him to work, show your world, your table, your colleagues. If this is impossible in your company, quit, you are in the midst of emptiness and nonsense.
- Enter the child's world, sit on the floor of his room and ask about his drawings, his stories, friends. Lie on the floor, look at the ceiling and talk. If the child is already over twenty - go together to the fields and lying in the grass, just silently look at the sky. This heaven is now yours - forever, because you divided it.
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- Stop imposing your successes on the child. If you are a designer, you don't teach your child to draw. Don't teach him music if he is a musician. It is not yet clear what is better for your son or daughter to have an abundance of opportunities to become you, or the only chance to become yourself. But happiness is in the hands of those who are busy with what they love, and do not weave into the section they hate. Life is full of circumstances where it is not the champions who win, who are not enduring and not excellent, but happy losers, full of hopes and plans to turn the expectations of others around.
- Teach your child to love. Tell me about your love, how you met him
father, as his mother first saw. Tell us that it hurts to love, that you need to learn to forgive, learn to love in spite of - only this allows you not to break and break bones in fragile feelings in life.
- Let the child go out into the yard with a packet of chalk and distribute it to others. Let them paint on the asphalt, write, and you watch from afar, from another planet of the adult universe, how your baby becomes himself. On my own without you - but with you far away. So he will live a happy life sometimes looking at the sky, remembering the chalk, the table that he moved in his room - himself, as he lay on the floor with his father and imagined what had become his world now - your common world.
- Don't teach your child to be a genius, don't rush knowledge, don't teach five languages. Observe on the sidelines how he looks at the books on the top shelf, do not help - he will get it himself. The main thing is that you provide him with these shelves in abundance.
Teach yourself not to be an excellent student, not to be the first, not to be a winner.
Author: Dmitry Karpov