We encounter many people throughout our lives. Some pass by, others stay with us for many years. According to occultists, all this close and distant circle of acquaintances and relatives is not at all a random set of meetings and family ties. Each person is “given” to us by Fate for specific purposes: to work off karmic debts, change our lives, and learn this or that lesson.
Even when the Universe brings us together with people "difficult" or not too pleasant - this is also a kind of lesson that we must learn. Each brings out something of his own from such a relationship. If the "homework" is not completed, then such personalities will appear in a person's life. Painful attachment and the inability to break the cycle of painful relationships is also a lesson.
Many articles have been written about energy vampirism. This term is used not only by esotericists and occultists, but also by professional psychologists. A relationship based on donation does not lead to anything good. This applies to both family life and friendship. Sooner or later, the person being used will feel uncomfortable. But innate tact, guilt, or sincere love does not allow you to break the connection with the "vampire." If one manages to break out of these bonds, then the “donor” feels uncomfortable. He is again looking for someone to whom he will give his love for free, give warmth, protect, preserve.
Not everyone succeeds in becoming independent and not depending on their partner. If a person gets into such situations every time, it means that his karmic program has not been worked out. Liberation from painful relationships that exhaust the soul will mean that a person has moved to a new stage of his development. And it doesn't matter who you free yourself from: from your "best" friends or "beloved" relatives. Often, both of them negatively affect our life. Yes, you have to choose: either to constantly sacrifice yourself, or to be known among your friends as a "soulless bastard."
It is generally accepted that in relation to your loved ones, relatives and friends you need to be generous, kind, feel sorry for them and always try to help. Yes it is. But only if they reciprocate. The game "with one gate" is the first sign of energy vampirism on the part of others.
Esotericists say that one of the strongest feelings played by those who like to "profit" from someone else's energy is pity. If a person does not show pity for the one who is suffering, he is called callous and soulless. This is very well used by manipulators of all stripes and energy vampires. Pity is a powerful lever that allows you to control a person, psychologists confirm. Nobody calls to become cruel and completely ignore the suffering and pain of others. But before rushing to help someone, you need to think, is this person really in need? Is there no self-interest in his actions and a desire to enslave me? Why should I constantly act as a "savior", and as soon as I need help, there are immediately a thousand reasons and excuses?
A person who requires constant attention and pity for himself most often feels quite comfortable. Feeding on compassion from his friends or family, he is filled with strength. But each time he will need more and more of this energy. As a result, the "donor" is completely devastated and exhausted, and the "vampire" is experiencing a surge of strength.
Friendship means that people connected by these bonds help each other in all situations of life. Financial problems, family troubles - there is nothing that cannot be discussed with your best friend. Karina thought so. In family life, the woman was not lucky. At more than forty years old, she was lonely, but on the other hand, she was quite successful in business. She also had few close friends. Work and the struggle for existence took away all her strength and time.
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The woman had many acquaintances with whom she could spend Friday evening, but nothing more. The only truly close friend lived thousands of kilometers away, and they could only call and write off. Frequent trips to each other were an unaffordable luxury. Therefore, when the woman met Olga, she decided that after many years of loneliness, she found a friend with whom she could not only discuss working moments, but also spend time sincerely.
Olga was a sociable and easy-going lady, despite the presence of two daughters. Her personal life was also difficult. Two girls from different husbands - that's what was left to her as a reminder of unsuccessful marriages. From the very first day of meeting, she constantly complained to her friend about her life. She said that, despite the outward "lightness" of being, everything is given to her with difficulty. There is not enough money, daughters grow up and are constantly rude, and so on. Karina, who until that moment had no one to care about, was very sympathetic to her friend and tried to help her at least with something.
At first, these were small sums of money that disappeared in the wallet of the idle Olga. Then, joint vacation trips at the expense of Karina. By nature generous and kind, Karina did not count the money spent on her friend, and for hours she listened to her sad moans about how hard life was.
Kara was not a stupid woman, and after a few months of such "friendship" she realized that she was simply being used. But, even realizing this, she could not break off relations with an insidious friend. Karina's sleep worsened, she became irritable, looked ugly and lost a lot of weight. The more Olga complained about life, the worse the woman became. She still sincerely felt sorry for her unlucky friend, but she intellectually understood that such a relationship would not lead to anything good. Olga seemed to "feed" on her pity: bright by nature, she became even more prettier, and men began to appear in her life again. As soon as another admirer appeared on Oli's horizon, she happily forgot about Kara. But as soon as she quarreled with her lover, she again rushed to her friend with complaints and groans. And she, being a reliable person, consoled her, gave her money and entertained.
Once Karina could not stand it and told about her strange friendship to her old friend, who lived in another city. Larisa listened to the woman and advised her to turn to a good psychologist and psychic. In her opinion, Kara was "captured" not only by a sophisticated manipulator, but also by an energy vampire. Larissa explained that pity is a great way to draw out energy. And the fact that Karina is already experiencing discomfort at the physical level is a serious reason to think about and end a painful relationship. Larisa remotely spread special cards on Kara, which showed her that there was really trouble with her friend.
Karina obeyed the advice and turned to specialists. The psychic confirmed Larisa's fears: the painful relationship "started" at the energy level. The shameless friend used Kara's energy to replenish her vitality. The psychic told Karina that everything that happened should become a kind of lesson for her for the future: not to take other people's suffering to heart, especially if the person does not deserve it. People like Olya need to be kept at a distance from yourself if you do not want to make yourself problems not only on the mental, but also on the physical level.
In order to break the painful addiction, Karina had to work with a psychologist.
As soon as she sharply distanced herself from her friend, the woman felt emptiness: she was so used to caring for someone. Yes, her strength began to return to her, but it was necessary to fill the spiritual vacuum. The psychologist advised Kara to radically change the environment, go on a trip, and, upon returning, have a pet. Best of all - a dog. Sincere and unconditional love of these animals heals any mental wounds. And Karina finally made up her mind: she followed the advice of a psychologist and took a plane ticket to the city where Larisa lived.
When the aircraft climbed and lay on the course, Karina sighed with relief: the painful relationship was behind. Ahead of her were new impressions and a meeting with a real friend, who, according to her, had prepared a surprise. Learning that the psychologist advised Karina to have a pet, Larisa decided to participate in his choice. Knowing that her friend doesn't have much money, she has already paid the breeder a deposit for the wonderful Labrador puppy. Kara could only come and pick up someone who would love just because she is in the world!