Where do the forces go? Why is there no energy? Why do you have to live and work on the machine, forcing yourself not only to monotonous work, but also, say, to creativity? Is it depression? In a broad sense, yes. But why does it arise not only among those wounded by life, but also, it would seem, kindred by fate - glorious, wealthy, talented, successful? Paradox.
UNScientific Approach
Why doesn't energy enter the body? This is an important point. Energy works fine, if it is not about illness. But a dam has appeared inside, which prevents the correct distribution of flows. It is worth removing it, and the person's condition will improve. He will feel alive again! Mikhail Zoshchenko was amazed at this simple explanation. The fact is that he almost always felt depressed and tired, his mood was always low, he was tormented by neuroses … Zoshchenko wrote a whole book about how he was looking for the cause of the loss of energy and found: in deep, deep childhood a situation occurred that inspired him with fear and anxiety before life. When he remembered everything, the strength returned, and he felt young and energetic!But the book aroused the rage and displeasure of the brothers-writers and party leaders - what kind of energy? What neuroses and complexes? Soviet people must always be vigorous, hardworking and energetic in order to work for the good of the country! The book was criticized and banned from publishing. The very concept of "energy" has become almost forbidden; there was something mystical, intangible, seditious in this word … However, even now, at the word "energy", many frown and criticize the "unscientific approach." How can you lose it if a person is not engaged in heavy physical labor and eats normally and sleeps enough? But there are reasons for the loss of energy: there are dams that do not allow the use of their energy resources. Here are some of them. The very concept of "energy" has become almost forbidden; there was something mystical, intangible, seditious in this word … However, even now, at the word "energy", many frown and criticize the "unscientific approach." How can you lose it if a person is not engaged in heavy physical labor and eats normally and sleeps enough? But there are reasons for the loss of energy: there are dams that do not allow the use of their energy resources. Here are some of them. The very concept of "energy" has become almost forbidden; there was something mystical, intangible, seditious in this word … However, even now, at the word "energy", many frown and criticize the "unscientific approach." How can you lose it if a person is not engaged in heavy physical labor and eats normally and sleeps enough? But there are reasons for the loss of energy: there are dams that do not allow the use of their energy resources. Here are some of them.
Captured by myself
The first is an unresolved problem. One person went to a psychologist, complaining of depression and depression. He received therapy for a whole year - he spent a lot of money and time. But he did not get better, he still complained of a breakdown and a bleak state. For a bad job and a bad relationship with his wife, with whom he only formally continued to live in the same house. Nothing connected them anymore … Finally, the psychologist told the patient, "Either get up from the uncomfortable chair, or sit as comfortable as possible and stop complaining!" He understood. I said goodbye to a psychologist and after a while found a good job. And he stopped complaining about his wife and tried to improve relations: this turned out to be possible when he relaxed and sat down more comfortably in the chair. And there was no trace of the depressed state.
Depressed feelings are a common cause of low energy. Restraining anger, resentment, grief can be done by an effort of will. It's like pressing a button to force the computer shutdown, say. But the fact is that there is only one button. And if you turn off negative feelings and emotions, you turn off other good emotions and feelings. Joy, delight, tenderness, hope. This is not an option. Negative feelings and emotions must be accepted, lived through, then worked out, and not suppressed by a violent smile and "Buddhist" indifference. The human heart is alive, sometimes it hurts - and this is normal. So the energy should be spent not on the struggle with natural feelings, but on their elaboration. It is better to accept and live, experience and calm down. And the strength will return quickly, and the consequences of stress will not be so dangerous …
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Mystery can consume a tremendous amount of energy. The psychologist Jung talked about a man who had serious health problems. When this man revealed his secret to the psychologist, his health instantly recovered, as if he had freed himself from something. The dam has collapsed! Jung also described cases of fever with a very high temperature. The temperature dropped, the illness passed after the confession, when the patient was able to share his secret with an understanding person.
It can take away energy and starting illness. The person feels bearable, nothing really hurts him, but he has no strength either. In this case, the energy can be spent on fighting the disease, which the person himself does not yet suspect. All the forces of the body are thrown into eliminating the danger!
The mask can also take up a huge amount of energy, create a dam. So Marilyn Monroe died, Sergei Yesenin fell into depression. They were vulnerable, sensitive people, but in life they wore a mask. A mask of success or a mask of a bully, a mask of a fatal cold beauty or a mask of a good-natured and cheerful fellow … It is not always possible to be yourself; that is life. And people who are forced by life to hide their true sad face under the guise of a clown or a bully spend a lot of resources on the game. Being yourself is not easy and sometimes unsafe, but you can learn to do it and stop losing strength.
BARREL DANAID
The wrong target can also create a dam and an obstacle. It's easy enough to see: we are going in the wrong direction, going with all our strength, making efforts, but, unfortunately, we are going in the wrong direction. A woman spends tremendous energy trying to save her husband from drunkenness. And he simply does not want it. It is convenient and good for him to live the way he lives. And respond with beatings and insults to attempts to save themselves. The wife spends a lot of money on doctors, psychologists, but sometimes it is better to quit the business that has been started: it is fruitless. This is a bottomless barrel of Danaid that cannot be filled. Moreover, we fill it with our personal life energy.
Finally, the reason for the loss of energy can be external: even Jung wrote that the influence of autonomous force on a person and his psyche cannot be denied. The reason for the decline may lie in toxic communication. Simply put, a certain parasite or parasites live at your expense. Ruthless energy consumers orchestrated an “unauthorized connection” to your “power line”. Perhaps you yourself spend too much energy on solving other people's problems, fearing to seem unkind, selfish, giving more than you can afford. And you agree to unfavorable conditions of work or communication. Or maybe there is someone nearby who “maliciously copies” you and your activity, as the Shadow in Andersen's tale copied a scientist, appropriating his work and energy. If communication with a person causes irritation, fatigue, brings unpleasant consequences,we must seriously think about whether it is time to distance ourselves. Is it worth it to tell other people about your deeds and plans in such detail, contrary to Einstein's advice: "Don't tell anyone anything"? Is there someone nearby who devalues your achievements, constantly doubts your success and secretly envies, wishing you failure and blunder?
Of course, these are far from all the reasons for the loss of energy, or rather, the emergence of an “internal energy dam”. There are many situations; life is diverse. But these are the reasons that are easy to recognize. It is necessary to take measures to eliminate them, to understand and study the problems. Stay close to those who love you and those who are positively charged - good communication is healing. But first you need to find the same dam and deal with this issue on your own or with the help of a specialist …
Psychologist Anna Kiryanova