How to control your emotions is a pressing and painful question for many! There are so strongly emotional people that with their emotions, as with uncontrollable weapons, they tear apart, destroy themselves and those around them, especially if these emotions are absolutely negative, such as anger, anger, hatred, etc.
Any diplomat, good politician, professional athlete, surgeon, aristocrat, or just a worthy self-respecting person will intelligibly explain to you why you need to be able to control your emotions and manage them. Because the success of each of them directly depends on this. Imagine what it would be like if each of them could not control himself and could not control emotions.
An athlete who could not cope with his own anxiety would not be able to control his body as needed and, most likely, would be injured instead of a medal.
The surgeon would kill the patient with his scalpel in trembling hands.
A politician would break down all the time and be led on to every provocation, get upset, nervous, lose face, and with it the support, reputation and trust of people, voters, and the electorate.
An aristocrat, in such cases, in the old days, lost his Honor and Dignity, and with them the right to enter the high society and the upper circles of the elite of society, the right to appear at balls and high-ranking receptions. And sometimes, due to unworthy behavior, the Aristocrat could lose his title, and even the right to bear a surname.
An ordinary person loses no less than a politician, surgeon, athlete or diplomat if he does not know how to control emotions.
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What does a person lose when they do not know how to control emotions?
1. Joy and a positive state, when negative emotions provoke him, take possession of him and destroy a good state of mind.
2. Peace and quiet in the Soul, which are often much more valuable than any, even positive, emotions that are not controlled.
3. Often loses relationships, friends, loved ones and loved ones! When, in a fit of anger or resentment, they destroy the remnants of feelings, love and trust in each other.
4. The person, dignity and reputation of an adequate respected person who is able to control himself. Those who do not know how to control themselves are often no better than an animal that rushes in rage at its owner, protecting the bone thrown by him.
5. Power and control over yourself and your life! Because there is always a great danger of falling into such external conditions that will contribute to the loss of state, the awakening of uncontrollable negative emotions and inappropriate, unworthy behavior, with unpredictable and sometimes dire consequences.
You can list many more points that a person loses when he is not able to control himself. But this article is not about that, but about what you need to do to learn how to control your emotions. I hope there is enough motivation, now to the topic!
How to control your emotions and how to learn to control emotions?
Managing emotions
Let's consider the main methods for controlling and managing emotions. There are methods that are generally available to everyone, but there are also purely esoteric, more complex methods that need to be mastered with a mentor. But that's not all you need to be able to do with your emotions.
In addition, if these are purely negative emotions - anger, anger, fear, envy, resentment, hatred, etc., - they need to be able to completely eradicate, burn out, destroy and replace them with the necessary, giving strength and dignity, positive quality. Such as - calmness, patience, forgiveness, self-control, mercy, kindness and good nature, gratitude, acceptance, love. How to work with these emotions - read the articles dedicated to each of them.
So how to control and manage your emotions
1. The method of switching yourself! Switching yourself to something else is a purely psychological method and is suitable for people with a good imagination. For example, imagine that a person does not swear at you, but reads poetry to you, and thank him for every word, saying "I love you very much too." Sometimes it can help a lot, but not everyone works, this method is more suitable for cheerful and creative people. It allows you to prevent the awakening of negative emotions in them.
2. Method of switching to another or shock therapy! One friend applied. The boss started yelling at her in the elevator, she listened, and when he stopped talking, she asked calmly and smiling - “Evgeny Olegovich, do you want me to sing a song for you?” He was taken aback, did not say a word in response, did not come out on your floor. He didn't yell at her anymore. This is from the category of preventing negative emotions in oneself and blocking them in another. But this is still a method of control and management.
3. The method of self-hypnosis! Self-hypnosis has 2 modes - normal and esoteric. Esoteric is for those who know the energy techniques of self-hypnosis and reprogramming. Such a method, if a negative emotion has risen, allows not only to extinguish it, but also to immediately rewrite it, to a positive reaction through self-hypnosis - for example, to burn anger and reveal, strengthen benevolence, or destroy fear and increase fearlessness and courage. This technique is studied and practiced in detail in the System of Acad. Mianie M. Yu.
The simplified technique of self-hypnosis is, in fact, affirmations or mantras, that is, pronouncing certain programs to oneself: “I strengthen calmness”, “I control myself”, “I am calm, independent and invulnerable,” etc.
4. Yogic Breathing - Pranayama, in one word! Fire breathing and other types of yoga breathing, including, are designed to learn how to control emotions. The same techniques, with their regular practice, allow you to learn how to burn out negative emotions and establish inner peace. Sages say - "Cover is the door to Paradise." - try it, it's worth it.
5. Meditation techniques, practices! Meditation allows you to learn how to do several important things: A) To develop a state of deep peace and relaxation, in order to gradually transfer it throughout your life. C) In a comfortable meditative state, learn to raise your negative emotions (through modeling a conflict situation), consider your anger, for example, see its cause and remove it altogether, that is, reprogram your usual reaction. C) Find stronger and more worthy reactions and master them through modeling the necessary situation in meditation. Moreover, this can be done many times until the reaction becomes stable and begins to automatically work out in real life.
6. Technique Identification! Put on the image of some chosen hero or heroine, completely, imagine yourself as him (the hero) and act, react in everything exactly like him. Ask yourself how a real Knight or a true Lady would act in this situation, imagine this further, play this worthy role to the end. It works, however, this technique is also more suitable for creative or spiritual people, with imagination.
7. Prayer! When you feel that you are about to be pissed off and you see that you can not restrain yourself (you are losing control) - close your eyes and start praying, forgive God, take away your and his (second person's) negative from the Light Forces, and give you in this situation, what is most needed (strength, patience, benevolence, the ability to forgive the offender, wisdom, etc.). It works! If you can do all this without closing your eyes, pray with open ones. If you feel that you cannot withstand the negative pressure, you will get out of the situation (leave the room for 5 minutes and put yourself in order).
8. Active physical exercise! They always help, for burning negative - good physical activity. Go to the gym to beat a punching bag, do 50 push-ups (for women 20), or sit down. Run on a treadmill for 20 minutes with intensive. In general, if it has accumulated and there is no more urine to endure - go and dump, burn all the negativity in training. It works! Athletes who train to exhaustion, up to 7 sweat, are usually very calm people, without negative emotions, because all their negativity is burned out in training.
