At certain times, people fail to show self-confidence. Then, when they are not enough at work, they feel awkward and resentful towards themselves. How often, an hour after an unsuccessful skirmish for us, we think about a remark that would be useful to us then. Each person has his own reasons, because of which his self-confidence decreases. Consider which of the following obstacles is best for your case.
1. Lack of Practice: You do not often enough practice to identify your limitations and not try to establish whether you can be more confident in yourself.
2. Parenting that Shaped You: Your early caretaking parents and others have reduced your ability to stand up for yourself.
3. Vague notions: you don't have clear patterns and don't know what you want.
4. Fear of hostility: you are afraid of expressions of anger and negative reactions and want to be considered reasonable.
5. Underestimating yourself: you do not feel the right to take a firm stand and demand a correct and honest attitude towards yourself.
6. Poor self-presentation: You usually express your thoughts vaguely, unconvincingly, inconsistently, or emotionally.
Analyzing your ability to feel confident will help you understand how to behave. Are there situations in which you constantly lack confidence? If so, can you find a common cause? Do you find that a particular person or environment creates particular difficulties for you? Your findings can help identify those obstacles that are most relevant to you. As you become more aware of them, you can find ways to really be more confident.
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You can develop the skills you need by observing how others, people, cope with situations that require self-confidence. Someone succeeds, someone does not. With close observation, it is possible to reveal the characteristics of truly confident people. By putting into practice what you learn, you will expand your stock of skills. The following guidelines, which research shows are characteristic of confident people, can help you.
Avoid Confusing Emotions: If you are angry, hurt, or emotionally hurt, you should expect others to respond to your emotions, not what you want them to convey. This can confuse the issue and divert efforts away from the task.
Keep it simple: Sometimes the importance of what people want to convey to others is lost due to unnecessary complexity or trying to deal with multiple issues at once.
Get your way: Work on resolving issues, despite the possible need to clarify your intentions for a long time until you are satisfied with the opportunity to solve the problem.
Don't “drop yourself”: if something is important to you, get others to know about your position.
Make sure that you are not "knocked down": others, often unconsciously, will try to lead you away from what you want to convey to them. This may be due to the pressure that is being put on them. Check out their point of view, but insist on yours.
Mistake does not weaken: if you are wrong - which happens to everyone sooner or later - do not allow yourself to feel inadequate. This feeling undermines your position.
Strive for victory after victory: Try to create situations in which your work will bring you victory, but not at the expense of other people. Take some time to explore how they might win too. In this case, both parties in personal relationships can feel the benefit, thus creating the basis for further productive contacts.
Author: Felix Alekseevich Kuzmin