"I don't want to live like this!", how many times does he say and think? How many times he says it or says it in his thoughts, he loses so much energy. And continues to move in a vicious circle. “I don’t want” is nothing, a black hole in the subconscious, a Void that takes away forces. This is a meaningless phrase, there is no intention to change anything in it.
A long list of “I don’t want” loads the subconscious with energy junk, empties the soul and deprives of will.
This is how depression begins in the broad sense of the word: with this "unwillingness", unwillingness. Ask a person: what does he want? And he will answer vaguely, they say, I want it not to be so. That it was not, so that it was different! But how exactly - a person "unwilling" usually does not think about it. All his energy is spent on denying the status quo. And the resource is no longer enough for setting a goal. He, like a kid, closes his eyes with his palms and babbles: "I don't want to!" Or pushes away a spoonful of porridge; I do not want! But there is no other porridge. It is a passive denial of life's circumstances without trying to change them.
There is no need to say these words, neither aloud nor mentally. They take away energy and plunge you into a daze. The brain does not recognize this command. And by repeating what you don't want, you attract it into your life. Vivid images of what you define as “I don’t want to” inhabit your subconscious. And all the forces are spent on denying the obvious and defining their relationship to reality. I do not want! I don't want to live like this anymore! But there is no information about how you want to live. And the simplified phrase is: “I don’t want to live”.
Better to think about what you want. To paint a "picture of the required future," as Bernstein called it. “I want to find a new, better job”, “I want to meet a person for a serious relationship”, “I want to increase my income,” “I want to get well,” these are the right words and the right intentions. They can be implemented and reinforced with actions. And “I don’t want to” is impossible.
Control your speech and thinking. Do you often “don’t want to” but do nothing? What do you want together what you “don’t want”? Maybe there are no desires? By changing the expressions you use, you can find the strength to change your life. And I don't want to break out of the vicious circle of sad and meaningless "I don't want" …
Anna Kiryanova