To become a bearer of sensitivity, gentleness, tenderness in a harsh world where these emotions are becoming less and less in demand is a task for true women. The goal is not easy, but achievable, and this is exactly what a loving heart cannot be imagined without. How can this be achieved? Obviously, for this, a future woman must receive a special education in the main science - the science of relationships.
First romance - with dad
The female way of development is the evolution of love in the chain "girl-girl-woman-mother". First, we ourselves are saturated with love, then we transform and give it away. Only in this case the woman's life will be full, have a deep meaning, and she will be able to fulfill her true destiny.
The life and development of a woman can be compared to the maturation of a fetus. First, the ovary appears (girl), which turns into a delicate flower (girl), and then into a sour unripe fruit (young wife). And finally, after going through difficult life situations, conflicts and the ability to maintain peace and harmony in the family, a woman is reborn into a mother. Each stage of the female path leaves its mark on the taste and color of the future ripe fruit: what a girl was like, so will a girl, and she will grow into a woman and a mother.
Let's start with the girl. The word "virgin" means "divine." Girls are initially born with whole individuals, unlike boys, who have to embody their wholeness. Girls are the embodied energy of nature, and boys are an opportunity for the development of a strong mind. Girls have an innate desire to give and share. From an early age, playing as mothers and daughters, the girl already intuitively understands her role. At the same time, it is very important for her to see the right example in the relationship of parents. Until the age of five, a girl receives the main emotional impressions, which she will then carry through her whole life.
A baby girl from the cradle needs to pay a lot of attention and care. The more you cherish her, the more warmth and love she will then give. The girl needs protection all her life: first - her father, then her husband. The relationship between daughter and dad should be intimate. This is a kind of daughter's first romance, and depending on how much she was saturated with this protection in childhood, her self-confidence will be formed. This novel may or may not be very successful, but all her further love stories will, in one way or another, be associated with the image of her father.
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The father should never criticize his daughter, and if he wants to reprimand her, then only through the mother, since she is her teacher.
Nature originally laid in a girl nine times more energy than in a boy, which is given for procreation and raising offspring. This is the main mission of a woman. A modern woman invests all her vitality in her career and business, but fails in her personal life, and at the same time her relatives are proud of her. But ask, what is in her soul, and the answer will be the same: "Emptiness", since she does not follow her own path of development and true purpose. Of course, there are amazing women who succeed in all spheres of activity, and most importantly, they do not sacrifice their family, but this is rather an exception to the rule.
There is a big difference in the upbringing of boys and girls. You need to believe in the boy, nurture his strength of mind, and take care of the girl tenderly. In modern society, everything happens exactly the opposite: they believe in girls, and take care of boys.
Chastity is a whole wisdom
A woman is by nature much more emotional than a man, and therefore the best direction for her self-realization is creativity. It is very important for girls to fantasize, cut, decorate. For example, before they cut dolls out of cardboard and themselves invented different styles of dresses for them, which can be attached and then changed to others. They had whole boxes of such homemade things. Today, the choice of dolls is huge, but they lie like a mountain in the corner, and the girls are demanding more and more new toys, since they were not taught to think creatively. Over the years, this undeveloped creative component will smoothly pass into the family bosom, and, taking on ugly forms, will result in claims and discontent.
Another important point that must be noted in the upbringing of a girl is chastity. If you disassemble this word by syllables, then it contains a huge meaning - a whole wisdom. This word practically came out of the lexicon and culture of behavior of modern people. Current values call to “take everything from life, so that later there will be something to remember in old age,” and the main thing in this sense is unlimited sex life. But a woman who has changed many partners will not be able to focus on one man, she will always feel that there is better somewhere, and, accordingly, she will never be satisfied. In addition, a girl should not change partners, because, according to her nature, she is strongly attached to a man. For her, entering into intimacy is tantamount to giving your heart. Unfortunately,many modern men take advantage of this gullibility, ruining women's lives, and they go through a series of life dramas. Therefore, the education of chastity in a girl should be given paramount importance.
It is very important for a girl to pay all attention to one man - her husband, and this approach is the basis of her happiness in her future family life. In the old days, before starting a family, young people announced their engagement, and for six months or a year did not enter into sexual relations, recognized each other as individuals, determined how similar their goals and views were.
So, the girl needs to be helped to develop creative energy and cultivate chastity in her, an understanding of how important she is as a whole person.
The third most important energy for a girl is the ability to be satisfied with what she is. The girl must learn to be peaceful. The main feeling that is brought up in a girl, develops in a girl and reaches its climax in a woman and a mother is the feeling of gratitude. An evil lady focused on the negative is a misfortune for the whole family. It is vital for a woman to give up the mindset of criticism and scarcity. If you analyze yourself and are sincere at the same time, you will understand that speaking badly is much easier than speaking well.
There is a simple recipe - for all women who come to see me, I give a recommendation: keep a diary of gratitude. Feelings of gratitude move us from scarcity to abundance. When we are grateful for what we have, nature gives us something else. If we do not value what we have, the latter is taken from us.
About the sun and the moon
In the East, since ancient times it was understood that the moral climate in the family rests on a woman. Its main task is to pacify, be able to smooth out rough edges, create coziness, warm atmosphere and harmony in the house. A true woman has a lunar nature. Moonlight is softer than sunlight. It cools and pacifies, and it is this mood that a woman should convey to others.
The sun symbolizes the male energy of leadership. Is it possible to imagine that the Moon rose to the firmament and demanded equality with the Sun? Of course not. At the same time, the Moon does not disappear when the Sun rises. It is simply not visible against the background of the luminary; it has a different light that creates harmony.
The lunar qualities of a woman are gentleness, delicacy, dependence, childlike spontaneity, gracefulness, charm, obedience, etc. A woman who is not able to obey and humble herself will have to experience a lot of pain. Life itself will educate her.
And female beauty is not a set of expensive creams and lipsticks, but a deep inner content. A happy woman just glows with an inner light. Many people think that happiness comes from outside, and are looking for someone who can make them happy. But it is born from within from positive thinking, and people are drawn to such women themselves. No wonder they say that the soul shines brighter than ten thousand suns. Positive thinking is born of faith, and faith rests on the Absolute Truth. Without faith, you are guaranteed to be overcome by anxiety, fear, anxiety, and you want to control, but you will not be able to do it. Spirituality gives a person strength, and you need to know the spiritual laws that govern the universe.
A man creates, and a woman inspires
Any man will become a hero and move mountains for the sake of a woman if she is well-groomed and glows with inner light, has a positive attitude, knows how to speak the truth with gentle words and, most importantly, believes in him. It is the sincere energy of faith that gives a man great strength and inspiration. A man is by nature generous and magnanimous, you just need to awaken a sleeping knight in him. The female path is the path of love, fidelity, care, compliance, gentleness, the ability to get along and find a common language with everyone.
A woman should be able to inspire on three levels: action, speech and mind. At the action level, this is expressed in appearance. A man will always be a contemplator of a woman's beauty, and if she stops caring for herself, then he risks that a man will start looking at others.
The second very important inspirational quality is speech. A woman needs to learn graceful speech and glorify a man. The ego of a man will always demand praise. When a princess is sincerely and genuinely admired by a man, a knight is born in him. This in no way means rude flattery - you need to learn to speak the truth in kind words. And if a woman makes claims, the man immediately loses inspiration.
And the third, most important thing, from which inspiration is born - thinking. We ourselves must believe in a man and think positively about him. The feminine mindset is very powerful, and if you think of your husband as a loser, he won't do anything good. The energy of thought is even stronger than the energy of action. Many wives do not respect their husbands, and their masculinity is withering away.
Now a huge number of families where boys don't come at all are damned families. We must accept, realize and change - start respecting men.
A true woman will always celebrate the achievements of the man who is motivated by them. The masculine nature is solar nature, and the wife should support her, knowing that the sun should shine. If you constantly immerse a man in the shade, then he will start looking for another place where he will be glorified.
The achievements of a man are his Achilles' heel. If there are not so many achievements, you need to praise any small, and then he will see that he is appreciated.
A true woman will support a man in any situation, and he will feel great gratitude for this. A man by nature is directed towards the future. Saying to a man: “Why are you all about a crane in the sky, let's talk about a tit in our hands”, we thereby undermine his faith in himself and belittle male character traits.
Women tend to idealize first, and then devalue everything. It is very important to understand that we are all different, and we need to communicate not with an ideal, but with a real person. And then respect, interest and creativity will reign in the family.
Life is a school, and a family is a training center for fighting selfishness. And the most painful and difficult lessons we will receive from loved ones. Our souls are closely connected and as a whole clan travel together more than one life in order for us to learn to love. And pain in a relationship is an opportunity to become more empathetic, to understand how subtle relationships are, how easy it is to hurt your heart.
Wisdom and love are the main greatness of the mother
Woman, wife and mother are three different energies and different levels of consciousness. That which the woman cannot bear, the wife will bear; what the wife cannot bear, the mother will bear. Re-tune your wave to positive energy, and you will see how the world around you will sparkle with bright colors. True love comes as a reward for deep inner work on oneself.
A true woman will not trade a single day of her life. She is absolutely happy and harmonious at any age, because every new day reveals to her many interesting facets, depth and all kinds of shades of love.
The Vedas say that the start in this life is the finish of the past. We come to completely different families to have completely different experiences, because our lessons of love must take place in this environment. And everyone has their own lessons. On the last day you will be the happiest, most harmonious, loving, giving, because at this moment you will have to give the most precious thing - the body. Then you move on.
Having realized this, we will begin to understand that our every step either leads to the goal, or leads away from it. And then the girl will really become a girl, a woman, a mother, a grandmother, and then a sage. The realized experience of a woman will continue to live in her, which she can give, and this will be her contribution to her family.
Nowadays, rare women after forty turn into wisdom. An experienced grandmother is a storehouse of selfless love. This is the main result of a woman's life. If you are sitting next to a blazing fireplace, it is impossible not to get warm. A woman should give warmth and nourish with energy. If you are a woman with whom people feel warmth and peace, then your life is not in vain.