9 tips that will definitely come in handy:
1. Don't jump to conclusions
This habit destroys us in two ways. First, we decided that we know what will happen, so we are not very careful, and we act based on this decision. Second, we imagined that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Again, wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.
2. Don't be dramatic
Many people invent disasters from small failures and react accordingly. That is, we make an elephant out of a fly. This habit creates anxiety, which, in fact, either does not exist, or it is so small that there is nothing to worry about. Why do people do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important, needed? In any case, this is as stupid as it is detrimental to ourselves.
3. Don't make up rules
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99% of all these "must" and "must", which we oblige ourselves - is useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. What for? By following these imaginary rules, you clog your brain with unnecessary restrictions and childish ways. And when you transfer these rules to others, you turn into a boring whiner or overconfident fanatic.
4. Avoid restrictions
The words you use can make you a monster, negativist to the core. The language of negativity and criticism engenders the same thinking. When you try to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to absolute uselessness. Don't put up labels. And you will be surprised at what you see.
5. Don't be a perfectionist
Life is not limited to dualities. In most cases, “enough” means just enough. If you're looking for the perfect job for yourself, you probably won't find it. With all this, other jobs will seem much worse to you than they really are. You will be looking for the perfect relationship, and most likely you will spend your entire life alone. Perfectionism is a “mental illness” that will prevent you from enjoying life, but will send you in search of something that does not exist every time.
6. Don't generalize
One or two, there may be three failures - not a sign of permanent failure. And a single victory will not make you a genius. A one-off event, good or bad, is not always a sign of a lingering trend. Generally, things are what they are and nothing more.
7. Don't take it personally
Most people around you, even your close friends, don’t speak, think, or care about you 99% of the time. People from your company, or those living in your neighborhood, probably never even heard of you. And they don't want to hear. Success and failure in life, warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you. Faking it will only make you feel more unhappy than you really are.
8. Don't give in to apathy
Train yourself to be optimistic. If you expect bad things in life, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world as in a crooked mirror. You will only notice the flaws, and the positive goes unnoticed. It's just amazing how you can see what is not? And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.
9. Don't live in the past
This advice is the most important of all: forget and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, and despair in this world comes from people who hold onto past grievances and problems. The more you scroll them in your mind, the larger they will appear to you, and the worse you will feel. Do not fight unhappiness, look at it from the outside. And you will find big pluses instead of small minuses. Do this and thereby deprive the past of the power to hurt you.