Loneliness is one of the main problems of our time. At first glance, this seems strange, because such opportunities have appeared - despite the distance, contact any person, start dating on the Internet, find like-minded people in social networks …
But, if you "dig" deeper, then the situation seems quite logical for several reasons.
Firstly, due to the constant “switching” of attention and its dispersion into many areas (thanks to the same gadgets and the Internet), communication has become more superficial. Psychologists have written a lot on this topic, but personally I do not consider it the main reason.
The main reason for loneliness, in my opinion, is still different. To describe it, I will consider the situation from an esoteric point of view. If you reject talking about "subtle matters", you can stop reading. If you are interested in an alternative view of many issues, then welcome to my blog.
So, let's begin..
I am sure that a person does not live once, but many times. I was convinced of this based on my own experience (I remember past lives), and watching other people. Abilities, inclinations, fears very often pass to us from past incarnations. In the same way, "inherited" from the past, we receive attachments and cravings for certain people.
It is a mistake to think that in each new life we will be surrounded by new people. Everything is exactly the opposite - connections are somehow drawn from the past. And this happens not only because a person has a "debt" to someone that needs to be worked out. "Karma" and "debts" are rather a consequence of the global law.
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The bottom line is that the souls of all people are interconnected like the cells of a huge organism. It looks like a huge "net of souls" where everyone has a certain place.
Each person has the souls closest to him (or "inner circle") - there are not very many of them, I believe, no more than a few dozen. They are like close relatives, only at the level of the soul - inclinations and interests coincide with them, they are closer than others in terms of their worldview.
Feelings for such "kindred spirits" can arise as strong as possible - from all-consuming love to fierce hatred. We do not necessarily meet such people in every life, but often one of them is still around.
But even if not, we will surely be surrounded by souls from the "second circle". There are many times more of them, and we certainly come across them every time. They can also be our best friends, spouses or parents. With this "category" the attraction is not as strong as in the first case, but deep love and affection for them can also be experienced.
So what does loneliness have to do with it, you ask? If each person has so many souls close to him, then why do so many feel lonely and useless?
In my opinion, the main reason is the illusion of choice. Close people from the first and second circle are sure to meet us throughout life. Here are just some stereotypes often interfere with seeing them or establishing relationships with them.
For example, the belief that friendship, intimacy and love are possible with any person. Therefore, instead of appreciating and strengthening relationships with really close people, there is a desire to find a replacement for them. In addition, in the conditions of technology development, it seems that it is very simple - after all, you can easily contact dozens of "more suitable" people.
However, the number of soul mates in a person's life is never huge. I will not argue, someone is lucky - many "relatives" live next to him, and even if the relationship with one of them does not work out, the rest will fill the need for friendship and love.
But there is also another situation - when there are not so many potentially close people, and relationships with them are not appreciated. A person recklessly thinks that if something does not suit him in his loved ones, the easiest way is to find a replacement for them. Unfortunately, this approach has become fashionable, especially among young people.
If anything, I'm not talking about cases when one person openly offends or humiliates another - here it is definitely worth ending the relationship. I'm talking about the endless comparison of loved ones with the ideals that each of us has in our heads. Popular culture has formed certain patterns of how our parents, friends, lovers and children should look and behave.
And often, if a loved one loves us, but does not meet these patterns and expectations, then endless claims begin. As a result, communication deteriorates and intimacy in a relationship fades away.
However, at the level of the soul, love is vital for people. She is a light and life-giving energy, without which we feel emptiness inside. Longing and the soul's need for love is loneliness.
The good news is that in order to get rid of it, you do not need to exert too much effort and run far away. It is enough to take a closer look at your surroundings - in one way or another, life will collide with loved ones.
It is not difficult to recognize them - these are those with whom it seems that they have "known each other for a hundred years", those who want to open their souls, who intuitively trust. The feeling of closeness may not always arise immediately, nevertheless, after a while it is felt on an intuitive level. In any case, the stronger emotions and affection a person can evoke, the closer he is.
The main thing in a relationship with a soul mate is to appreciate them and devote time to them. Because, in the end, we never yearn for an abstract ideal - in the soul of everyone is the desire to find love with loved ones.
Author: Viktorya Nekrasova