“I so want you to love only me!”, “I really need you”, “I am ready to give everything for the happiness of children (family, parents, loved one)”.
Familiar phrases, isn't it? No wonder, because we often speak out of habit, not even suspecting that we are blocking our path to happiness, love and well-being.
Wake up the muse in you
Let's see what is wrong with the named expressions. They are completely different, and each is dangerous in its own way. "I need you". Probably, many have already guessed what is wrong with this wording. The word "need" has one root with the words "need", "need". In other words, a woman reports that she literally cannot live without her lover, refuses her own independence. But is this how men represent the woman of their dreams? No, they dream of independent, interesting, sexual partners who would inspire them. The ideal woman is a muse. And for a loved one, and for the universe. Her happiness and well-being, by definition, cannot depend on another person! The muse inspires: this is her essence. The universe, others, your own spouse. And on how successfully a woman copes with the task, depends on how happy she is.
Cure for need
"I am ready to give everything …" For what purposes a person is able to make any sacrifices, it is not so important. But if he directly states this, be sure: you will have to answer for your own words. And literally give everything (or almost everything). So, when it comes to a career, there is a real risk of paying for it with your own health or personal relationships. If it's about the well-being of children, then the Universe can accept the family happiness of parents, financial stability, and so on as payment. People who broadcast to the world that they are “ready for anything,” “agree to donate,” “to give anything,” very often find themselves at a broken trough - almost literally. Or they get into debt obligations and give, give, give … Do not allow such thoughts and statements!Do you want happiness for your children? Are you dreaming of making a career? To gain material independence? Fine. Let's just do without sacrifices.
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Here and now
"I so want you to love only me!" Firstly, a woman voices her desire, the realization of which completely depends on the will of another person: “I want you to…” No matter how hard we strive, we cannot influence the feelings, thoughts and actions of other people, even those closest to them. In other words, by formulating our intention in this way, we voluntarily take a subordinate position, and also relieve ourselves of responsibility for our own happiness. And in this case, harmonious relationships are out of the question. By the way, about the same thing happens when we say: “I was brought up like that”, “I was taught” and so on. A person declares to the world that any of his successes and failures are the merit or fault of other people. That is, it recognizes its own impotence: it is this informational message that the Universe receives. Feel the difference:“I was taught” and “I studied (studied)”. The second option says that a person made efforts himself, chose which experience, knowledge, skills fit him, and which, perhaps, it would be wiser to refuse. But back to love. There is another danger in this phrase: "You loved me …" Past tense verb. That is, the whole meaning of the statement is automatically sent to the past. And relationships, even those that are just beginning, dry out very quickly.
I often ask a simple question: "Do you want everything to be good for you?" And almost everyone answers without hesitation: "I want!" Not suspecting that they themselves are giving up numerous benefits, good luck, love. All for the same reason: "It was good." Sometime in the past. Sometimes people reassure themselves: "Everything will be wonderful for me, everything will work out." Someday. In an uncertain future. But in such phrases and thoughts, we put a huge amount of energy, our hope, dreams. And it turns out that we send our own resources either to the past or to the future.
Both ancient sages and modern psychologists advise to live here and now. Heed this recommendation. To become happy, learn to think and talk about good things in the present.
"Everything is fine with me!", "I am happy!", "I am loved!", "I am prosperous!" and further down the list of your desires. The same applies to the dreams that concern your loved ones: "My children are healthy, successful and prosperous!", "My husband loves and appreciates me!" The thought will automatically be followed by the visual component: you will see yourself happy, loved, successful - and very soon circumstances will begin to change. It really works! It is important to free yourself from the slightest doubts, fully believe and realize that all your desires are real and have already come true (or are being fulfilled at the moment). And do not regret that quite recently, with your own thoughts and phrases, you sent energy into the past or the future: everything is interconnected. However, now it is important to move completely into the present in order to stop dreaming and start living the way you want.
Natalia Vesna