One wise man knew everything about money and happiness, because he had both. During the financial crisis, when he went broke, he was asked, "How does it feel to be poor?" To which he replied: “I am not poor, I am without money. Poverty is a state of mind, and I will never be poor. " We are reading a book by psychologist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.
1. THINKING RICH
He was right: wealth and poverty are the essence of a state of mind. Some people, having no money, feel rich, and the rich feel poor. If you are poor, that is, you think shallowly - this is much more dangerous than being stranded. You think about wealth, forgetting that money comes and goes, and you are valuable on your own. Think Rich: Build your self-esteem, remind yourself of how precious your personality is. This alone is real wealth.
We are often advised to do what we like, and the money will appear on its own. Sometimes it works. But more importantly: doing what you love, you experience a great sense of fullness of life, which is more valuable than any wealth. Near the bed of the dying, we often hear the words of regret: “I never followed my dream,” “I never did what I really wanted,” “I was a slave to money.” But no one has yet said, "I would like to stay in the office longer" or "I would be much happier with more than ten thousand dollars."
2. RELEASE CONTROL
We believe that money gives strength, we feel that control over people and the situation gives us power. The more control the better. Naturally, we need to keep our daily activities within the framework, but problems arise when we begin to control more than necessary. That is, we expend energy to embrace the immensity.
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It is true that those with more money and power can control the environment. But this has nothing to do with real power. This is only a temporary influence on others.
When we seek to take control of people or situations, we deprive them and ourselves of natural victories and defeats, without which there is no life. We want everything to be "our way". But “our way” is not always the best.
Why should others follow it? We grow stronger in relationships and in life when we let go of control, realizing that this is just an illusion. And life doesn't turn into chaos when we loosen or remove control. Moreover, everything falls into place.
3. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY
Personal strength is both an innate gift and a reality. We waste it when we focus on the opinions of others. To bring her back, remember that she is your life. You don't have the strength to make others happy, but you have the strength to make yourself happy.
Think of the people you wanted to please ten years ago. Where are they now? Have you disappeared from your life or are you still trying to gain their favor? Leave it. Take the power back - for yourself. Our strength is meant to help us do what we want, become what we can become. It is not given so that we do only what we "must". The most valuable thing we can and must do is to fill ourselves.
4. BELIEVE IN OTHERS
Personal power creates spaces in our lives - and in the lives of those around us - to fill them with integrity and grace. This strength means that we support others in their strength, for we are strong enough to give. As a result, what is in you, I find in myself. If I convince you to believe that you are not a victim, it helps to realize that I am not a victim. It is the miracle that allows useful good ideas to spread. By instilling faith in others, we gain faith in ourselves.
Unfortunately, we ordinary people often go astray. We look back at our mistakes and losses with the words: “I am unhappy because I broke so much wood. I'm not good enough, so I'll try to improve."
But looking for mistakes and missed opportunities only binds to them. We instill in ourselves: "Before, I was" insufficient ", but I will become" bigger "right now." We comfort ourselves that we will be happy if there is more money, more authority, or more respect.
5. LIVE TODAY
Why does it seem to us that "tomorrow" has more opportunities for happiness or strength than "today"? Playing more keeps us feeling inferior. Even if we get what we want, we will still feel worse than expected, because that will not be enough. And we will still remain unhappy. If only we had a little more … We do not understand that in reality everything is much simpler.
The dying cannot afford to play the game of "more" because tomorrow may not come for them. They find that the power is in "today" - and that is enough. If we believe in an almighty and good God, can we really believe what he will say: "I must wait until tomorrow!" God won't say, "I wish Bill had a good life, but oh, he has a bad job, so I can't help it."
God does not see the limitations in which we place ourselves and our lives. He lets us out into a world where life can always get better - not tomorrow, but now. And a rainy day will immediately turn into a sunny day, bad relationships will become good, and "wrong" - "right."
Olga Sulchinskaya