It has long been noticed that we acquire the qualities of the person we think about and, therefore, talk about. Therefore, even Western psychologists advise thinking and talking about successful and harmonious people.
But the more selfishness and envy we have, the harder it is for us to speak well of someone. We must learn not to criticize anyone. The one who criticizes us gives us his positive karma and takes away our bad. Therefore, in the Vedas it has always been believed that it is good when we are criticized.
How does speech work with our karma? The Mahabharata says that if you have planned something, want to do something, do not tell anyone about it. Once you've said it, it's 80% less likely that it will happen, especially if you've shared it with an envious, greedy person.
Why do people who speak little and thoughtfully achieve more? They don't waste energy.
Another simple rule related to speech is that if we have done something good to someone and boasted of it to others, then at that moment we lose positive karma and all our fruits of piety that we earned by this act. Bouncers achieve little. Therefore, we should never brag about our achievements, since at this moment we lose all the fruits that we have earned before.
The student approaches the master and asks:
- You advise to live with an open mind. But then the whole mind can fly away, right?
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- You just shut your mouth tight. And all will be well.
Thoughts determine speech, so it's important not to think badly of anyone. The more chaotic thoughts we have in our heads, the more they appear in the language and the more chaotic speech will be. The one who thinks clearly speaks clearly.
There is one more level - to learn to accept criticism. One of the qualities of the mind is that it is able to justify itself in any position. The lower the level of the person, the more excuses you hear from him. Even having committed the most heinous crime, such a person, without blushing, justifies himself. One of the main indicators of a personality who is at a high level of development is determined by the fact that she calmly listens to criticism in her address.
The rules of intelligent speech
Three Yogis are meditating in the cave. Suddenly they hear a sound made by an animal. One yogi says - It was a goat. A year passes. Another yogi replies: - No, it was a cow. Another year passes. The third yogi says: - If you do not stop the argument, I will leave you.
The first rule of reasoning is that before you say something harsh, count to 10. This may sound silly. The first time we can hardly count to 3. But on the other hand, if you answer after a short pause, then your answer will be much more reasonable, because the first thing that comes to mind when we are criticized, scolded, is the desire to justify ourselves and respond sharply in response.
Therefore, learn to think for 5-10 seconds before answering. Among other things, it will bring down the unnecessary intensity of emotions.
A person who is engaged in self-realization speaks very little and thoughtfully. In the biographies of some great people, it is said that they never responded immediately to accusations and generally tried not to say anything in anger. They postponed the conversation until another day, or in general, until the moment when passions calmed down. For they knew - as long as anger and irritation affect their speech, the consequences will be sad, and sometimes simply destructive.
The second rule of reasonable speech is not to go to extremes. God manifests in little things, and Satan in extremes. One should not take a vow - "I will be dumb like a fish." Especially if by your nature you are a bright extrovert, then this can only harm you. If your psychophysical nature is that you have to talk a lot, so speak so that you and those around you will benefit from it. Therefore, be open and friendly, and most importantly, live consciously. It is important to remember that our level is determined by small, insignificant actions - how we reacted to rudeness in the store, what emotions start to overwhelm us when we are "undeservedly" criticized, etc.
Three levels of speech
A person at a high spiritual level, in goodness, to whom they say something bad about someone, or he saw or heard something defiling, may even physically become ill. He may feel like he has been doused with mud. Such a person always speaks the truth in pleasant words. Consciously speaks every word, and every word brings harmony to this world. There is a lot of harmless humor in speech, often over oneself. Such people are almost always healthy and happy.
People in passion are very sensitive to criticism, they are happy to talk for hours about topics related to sex, money, economic prosperity, politics, discussing shopping, talking good about themselves, sarcastically discussing someone, etc. They usually speak quickly. Humor is usually vulgar, associated with sex. Usually, at the beginning of a conversation, they feel great satisfaction and enthusiasm, but after such conversations - devastation and disgust. And the higher the level of consciousness, the stronger this feeling. This style of speech leads to degradation at all levels.
Those who are in ignorance are distinguished by the fact that their speech is full of insults, claims, condemnations, threats, obscene words, etc. All words are saturated with anger and hatred. When such a person opens his mouth, it feels like the room is filled with an unpleasant odor. Therefore, if such a person is told something good about someone, he can get sick. Such people, as a rule, themselves, consciously or not consciously, provoke others, trying to evoke in them the energy of anger, irritation, resentment, envy, since they are tuned in to this wave and feed on these lower destructive emotions. Their humor is "black", full of mockery and joy of someone else's grief. They are in illusion from start to finish. The Universe treats such people with heavy blows of fate and diseases. They quickly develop mental illness. You can't even be close to them, let alone communicate.
It is usually rare to find a person who is constantly on only one level. Mixed types are more common, or the type of person can change quite quickly.
It very much depends on:
1) The society that we choose - at work, rest. For example, when we start communicating with a passionate person, in a few minutes we may find ourselves actively involved in discussions of politicians. Although 10 minutes ago we didn't care about them.
2 places. For example, in casinos, nightclubs, near beer stalls, drug addicts' den. A discussion of spiritual topics is difficult to imagine. If the place is saturated with passion and ignorance, then the speech sounding there will be appropriate.
3) Time. For example, from 21-00 to 02-00 o'clock is the time of ignorance, so it is at this time that you want to go to an ignorant place, watch an ignorant film, talk about ignorant, at best, passionate topics. The morning is wiser than the evening - this is folk wisdom. It has long been noticed that what you talked about in the evening and, especially if you made any decisions, you regret it in the morning or, at least, see it in a different light. Therefore, following a simple rule - never make decisions in the evening, and generally speak as little as possible during this time - will make our life much happier and save us from many problems and misfortunes. It is no coincidence that everything in nature is asleep at this time. Have you ever heard the birds singing during this time?
At the end of the week, you can conduct a test - which speech dominated during the week.
If in goodness, then it will be easy to see how harmony and happiness enters our life.
If in passion and especially in ignorance, the natural result will be illness, depression and unhappiness.
An important rule is to get rid of claims. The first step to love is gratitude. In this world, few people thank anyone. Basically, everyone makes a complaint - either in a hidden or explicit form. But it is important to remember that if we don’t thank someone, it means that we begin to criticize, make claims, not always even realizing it. Service is not only some kind of physical help, first of all, it means helping a person to develop the consciousness of God, to give his love, to bring a person closer to the Divine.
Everything we do without love brings only misfortune and destruction, no matter how noble it looks outwardly. Teachers teach that every second we either draw closer to God or move away from Him. Every situation is a lesson. And we need to thank God for every situation sent to us. The Almighty is all-good and every second He wishes us only good. Every second is dedicated to our learning.
As soon as we have complaints, our heart center is blocked. The most frequent complaints are about fate, others, dissatisfaction with oneself and the world. Claims are manifested not only in words, but, first of all, in thoughts, tone, communication style and attitude towards life.
Each situation is given to us so that we work on ourselves:
The less harmonious we are, the more tense, the more severe lessons we will learn.
But as soon as we have an acceptance of the situation, relaxation occurs and, therefore, this situation will be quickly resolved.
Ayurveda says that you cannot get rid of a disease if you do not accept it. This is the first step towards healing and solving any problem - full acceptance within, as the grace of God, this disease and misery, and on the external plane you need to exert every effort to resolve it. If we do not accept the situation, then more than 90% of our energy will go to “chewing” it. Our body can cope with any disease. We can also cope with any situation and come out of it as a winner. If we are given some kind of test, then we can endure it. God cannot afford trials. Instead of complaining, we should get used to thanking everyone. Grievance is the first step to sickness and unhappiness.
You have to track how much gratitude you have and how many claims you have towards others. You will find that we often have more complaints than gratitude. Claims come from the mind and false ego.
Any of our claims are destructive in nature, they take our energy and close our heart. True humility is expressed in accepting any situation. Many people understand humility as something ostentatious: if you hit one cheek, turn the other. This concerns the inner state. We accept any gift of fate, whatever it may be. It is advisable to repeat in your mind as often as possible, or even better aloud: "For everything - the love of God." People who repeated this phrase changed their facial expressions, they became softer, the clamps in the body disappeared, and in general they became happier and healthier. Try it, it works!
If our subconscious mind is attuned to perception, seeing in everything the Higher Will - this will quickly lead us to perfection.
Rami Blekt