Do not forbid yourself to smoke, but want to quit. Do you feel the difference?
Most often, we follow the path of prohibition: we do not allow ourselves to smoke, eat sweets or drink, or sleep too much. But you have to want to quit smoking. Do not forbid yourself to smoke, but want to quit. Do you feel the difference?
A friend of mine, a doctor, recently told me that relatives of a deceased patient filed a lawsuit against their command. “It happens a couple of times a year. People are in pain, they cannot accept and blame themselves for not being able to control. Therefore, they try to control it afterwards,”she said. - All this really hurts, but it is important to understand that there are things in the world that cannot be controlled. Situations where nothing really depends on us. You just need to suffer and endure this, not trying to find the culprit and not trying to save the situation."
And I woke up from a coma. After all, this is my favorite pastime - trying to save a situation in which nothing depends on me! For three days I lay motionless, trying to accept those situations in which there are no guilty ones and I cannot do anything. Then I cooked rice with fish and went quietly to do things in which my actions really matter. Faith without logic is just a prelude for an impotent man.
Thinking out loud
Wisdom is the ability to hear others. Freedom is the ability to hear yourself.
Once I was sitting in a cafe and saw through an open window how a one-legged young man was pushing a stroller with a baby in front of him. One-legged, no prosthesis. Probably, he analyzes himself and life around him much less than I do. I felt incredibly ashamed, and really wanted to wash the floors or at least wash the curtains. I really wanted to do something, and not think. Something very simple and everyday.
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It is such a wild mistake to think that you can find yourself once and for all. You can only understand yourself for a period. And then you grow up. Or people will change you. Or a disease. Or moving. Or work. It's like a subscription: for a year, three or five. Expires. You cannot use expired documents forever.
I was about seven years old, a classmate was trying to get my attention. Of course, wildly: jerking and tugging at the straps of the backpack. Once after school I ran away from him, but the strap on my sandals tore, and I crashed to the ground with relish. Situations and people in life are different, but shoes should be comfortable and of high quality. Who knows how much and where to go.
I also like those people who are involved in saving sick children, and those who are focused only on their family. Because creating a healthy family and raising mentally healthy children is just as tremendously important a contribution to society as saving those who need help.
My task as a writer is not to change the world / people / the course of history, but to enable a person to experience deeply asleep emotions through words. It is they who motivate us to take action. Which - the reader decides, not me.
Most often, we follow the path of prohibition: we do not allow ourselves to smoke, eat sweets or drink, or sleep too much. But you have to want to quit smoking. Do not forbid yourself to smoke, but want to quit. Do you feel the difference?
Even if you do not achieve any of your goals this year, but at the same time you will witness 365 sunrises - consider that it was a very successful year.
© Tamriko Shooli